Is it truth or intimidation?

[truthordare]

SO has lied to you in the past about money in order to keep you from leaving the relationship (they have more money than they really do or owe less money than they’ve told you) and you have even left the SO for these lies but have reconciled. You’ve dated a few years but don’t live together however that’s what the SO wants to do and also marry.

You are well established financially and worked your whole life. Want to retire if you can in about 4 years.

You catch SO again in financial lie and ready to break up BUT this time SO corrects the lie/financial mistake knowing SO has been caught and rationalizes it as follows:

Everyone is different about money and didn’t think they did anything wrong. Plus you dated others while there were breaks during relationship and lied about when those ended (kept dating for a while) So let’s start fresh and leave all that behind us.

Problem is you apologized and only did it once. SO has done their lying multiple times.

But you really do love each other (no lying there). Is this intimidating you to stay or does it make sense because it’s the truth?

[madotnw_nihs]

Everyone does view differently about money like how you should spend it or the importance of it. But it's not an opinion of how much you owe and how much you have.
You do need to know what the financial landscape is before you marry someone. I think he just has a ton or debt and is unwilling to disclose unless you find out.

[Hooo!]

Well if you wanna be broke together and that would be fine for you then go for it
Ifyoucan handle your partner being broke then live with it

I personally couldn’t
But that’s just me
And I’m not you