old girlfriend ask for friendship

[french_222]

Hello,

I'm french so my english is not that good....

Here's the story... I Went really passionate for a girl, she dump me and i took it very hard, i went to depress time using pills to sleep all summer long. Now i start to feel a little bit better, but she cameback by email saying she want to be my friend... saying it take me to much time to come back, it took 6 months so far blablabla..

I said no, yes, no, yes, no no no, and finally today i send her a letter telling her that i want to be her friend because it touch me that she came back for that... but saying i need more time... So i kept saying yes and no for a week now, and she's tired i think..
i feel like i rush my feeling to give her friendship... Now she's back in my head, and i have trouble to sleep..... but in a other way is it possible try to see her to get the pain away by moving on to friendship state? Is it normal i went passionate for this girl for 4 months and now still after 6 months i feel strange about it?

So i got destroy by passion, i feel strange when i see her, but it touch me a lot she want to be my friend... i want to give that to her... what should i do?

Thank you

[vashti]

Tell her no. You don't really want to be her friend; you want to be her lover. Pretending to be anything less will only cause you more pain.

[french_222]

Yes but i wish some day i can see her

[IndiReloaded]

Is this BD, by chance? Just wondering... something about the blablabla-thing.

[french_222]

Bd... i don't get it...

[anachronistic]

Yes but i wish some day i can see her

but you want to be with her. you'll be depressed every time you see her.

[Tedel]

I agree with vashti.

[Gigabitch]

This is not friendship, and if she really cared about your feelings, she'd stop torturing you.

[french_222]

yeah it's start so clear now... she understand my feelings... at he bottom line, she told me take your time, i wish i can see you some day... i'm in a acceptation process now, i will see her in few weeks or few months!! I'm really happy about it!

thanx a lot, i can defenitly be friend with this girl, and it will help me moving on with my life!

[Gigabitch]

Denial. It's not just a river in Egypt.

[french_222]

please explan me that expresion

thank you

[french_222]

yeah it think i get it!....

I'm sick and tired to play de victim in this situation, she can give me nice thing has a friend, because there's a lot of thing i like in that girl... I want to talk with her about my life right now... and not the fact she dumped me.... I'm still little bit sensitive about it because last week have been emotional, so i will wait just a little bit longer.... but i'm positive about it! Friendship is so possible when you open your heart!!!


cheers!

[Gigabitch]

I don't think you're going to find a single person on LF who really agrees with you, but we'll still be here for you when your heart ends up in tatters again.

[squirrley]

I dont agree it. But its only my opinion and heres why. It took you months to get over her and you had to take pills to function. Youre still emotionally attached to her in more ways than a friendship. You thinking you can just have a friendship with her at this time is blindfolding yourself.

Id give yourself more time dont cave into it. Having her as a friend is better than nothing. NO NO NO. You will set yourself up for more heartbreak.

[french_222]

well ouf.... i will think more about it