Cat Destroys Relationship

[Indignant]

some people starve in this country after being laid off due to the crisis, and we still have people who waste thousands of dollars on their animals. Nisha, if you had a boyfriend with a pet, knowing your current situation, how supportive would you be on him spending it on the pet instead of you and your daughter?

I wouldn't want to date someone who'd spend hard earned money on a pet.

[pinkpuca84]

you really should try to make peace with the cat. it may not be that hard at all, u know? my dad originally HATED animals, let alone dog. But one day i bought one, and for the first 1 year there'sw always arguments over my dog, he almost killed the dog, as a matter of fact...but gradually my dad got over the hating stage and finally "okay" with my dog, now (it's been 2 years), my dad even loves the dog very much. He cares about the dog like he cares about me...haha...so yeah...try that. it might not be as hard as u might think to love the cat also. well, if u love ur fiancee that is...

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

It's his pet he can do what he wants. As much as I would like to have a man to help me financially with my daughter, he would not be obligated. Why? Because he is not her biological father. He is only helping, but he is not obligated. Why are you guys acting like you are so much better than animals? I'd like an answer to what I stated in a previous post. Are you guys saying that once the vet bill is too expensive that you should say **** the cat?

And let me add that humans die too. You never know when you're gonna die. So why should I spend thousnads of dollars on a human if they're just gonna die too? Hmm?

[misombra]

pets are better than people.

and how do you come to the conclusion that this girl would pay more money and attention to her cat(s) than a child? in my opinion people who care for their pets and other living things in their household are people who can be trusted with children. if my bf spent time and attention and money on his dogs (which he does), that leads me to believe that he would do the same with his own children.

[nopetlover]

I just paid $800 on a sick animal because I care and love for the animal. Just because it may live for a certain amount of time means nothing. Are you saying that a kid diagnosed with cancer who is given 2 years to live doesn't deserve care?

How much is too much for your animal then? Is it $5,000, $50,000 or whatever you have? Say if you spent your life saving on your beloved animal, what would you do a month later you found out that your biological child needs $50,000 for some special medical care?

I understands her love for her cat, but where do you draw the line?

[misombra]

what would you do a month later you found out that your biological child needs $50,000 for some special medical care?

i would think that the father or mother would have health insurance for their child.

[nopetlover]

lol. you're exemplifying how much better pets are than humans.

No need to be sarcastic or mean here.

A dog or a cat barely knows where he/she should not pee, how can they understand the complicated concept of love? Nothing has any meaning unless you give a meaning.

Most pet lovers confuse about the difference between love and attention. A dog or cat can give you all the attention you want, but if you take that as love, it is your call.

[misombra]

No need to be sarcastic or mean here.

A dog or a cat barely knows where he/she should not pee, how can they understand the complicated concept of love? Nothing has any meaning unless you give a meaning.

Most pet lovers confuse about the difference between love and attention. A dog or cat can give you all the attention you want, but if you take that as love, it is your call.

well, now you know that you can't deal with cats and the people they own. move on and let her find somebody who is less bothered by it.

[Aeradalia]

I just paid $800 on a sick animal because I care and love for the animal. Just because it may live for a certain amount of time means nothing. Are you saying that a kid diagnosed with cancer who is given 2 years to live doesn't deserve care?

Of course you will resort to the humans are better argument I am sure. Maybe you should get an animal to understand. Or maybe you are incapable of love to something other than yourself.

A child is a human... and if they are my own biological child... then the love and bond would be greater..

An animal is a piece of meat that may do some tricks... so yeah.. $800 is a bit steep.

Try all you might, I will not make the comparison of animals to humans... that's comparing a human to a piece of meat.

Just because you don't understand me doesn't mean that I am the worst person you've ever met... that is an assumption on your part. This is a lack of tolerance from you... not me. Feel free to shower love on whatever creature you like... and finances too if you want... but don't expect me or everyone else to do so or even understand you.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Well, as I already stated, the best thing he did was leave her. An animal is obviously a piece of meat/nothing to him as well, so leaving her is the best thing he could have done for both their sakes.

There's your answer OP, you did the right thing by leaving. Case closed.

[doppelgaenger]

Oh jesus. It's just a ****in' cat. You act like she wants to have an atom bomb in the house. What's a little doo doo and a little fur brushing up against your leg every now and then? It's nothing.

Just let her have the freakin' cat. Make a little sacrifice and show her you love her.

If you can't hold a commitment over trite things, I wonder how you'd be able to handle anything more. You're not ready for marriage yet.

[Aeradalia]

Well, as I already stated, the best thing he did was leave her. An animal is obviously a piece of meat/nothing to him as well, so leaving her is the best thing he could have done for both their sakes.

There's your answer OP, you did the right thing by leaving. Case closed.

The cat never really mattered... there was a difference of opinions in this relationship --- call it dumb, smart, whatever... that's irrelevant --- it was just a difference of emotional and financial investments. So yes, I think it's wise for them to part ways.

So I agree with LadieNsha4u2nv.... he made the right decision.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Oh jesus. It's just a ****in' cat. You act like she wants to have an atom bomb in the house. What's a little doo doo and a little fur brushing up against your leg every now and then? It's nothing.

Just let her have the freakin' cat. Make a little sacrifice and show her you love her.

No Doppel, he's a loser who cant get over himself. Dont suggest to make this girl suffer with someone like that that thinks about only himself that he wants to cancel a life together over a cat. She deserves better.

[doppelgaenger]

No Doppel, he's a loser who cant get over himself. Dont suggest to make this girl suffer with someone like that that thinks about only himself that he wants to cancel a life together over a cat. She deserves better.

Well neither of them sound ready for a commitment of that level. The fact that they can't compromise over little things is just the archetype of why marriage fails so much these days.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

The cat never really mattered... there was a difference of opinions in this relationship --- call it dumb, smart, whatever... that's irrelevant --- it was just a difference of emotional and financial investments. So yes, I think it's wise for them to part ways.

So I agree with LadieNsha4u2nv.... he made the right decision.

My reason for being so against this is because its not a valid reason to leave the one you claim to love. He could have had a discussion about it with her on ways to keep the cat for her sake but keep it elsewhere for his sake. They could have made a compromise to keep them both happy. But no, he called off the whole engagement and put off kids over this. This situation was really not that serious. As Lipp said, there are tons more things to worry about splitting up over, and this should not be one of them.

I exploded when Indignant brought my education and my daughter into this shit. It was VERY unnecessary.