big love but ......

[guitar62]

hi verybody,

I'm very much in love with my new girlfriend since half a year but there's something which worries me....

I used to make music and wrote lots of songs with huge enthusiasm and energy since years during the time when I was unhappily 20 years married in the time till 2008. Since 2008 I seperated I felt my love for music dying but a lot of love feeling for girlfriends I had after my wife.
Since half a year I found my biggest love I ever had, but my music interest goes down and down .... which worries me very much.
Also my interest for my music friends goes down more and more...
My dear love loves my songs my singin and guitar very much but I don't have much interest - I'm just so happy to be together with her, talking to her, making love, going out for dinner, watching movies with her, making sports ....
but no more fun making music...
Music was sooooo imortant for me and I'm very talented lots of friends say...
Now I'm getting worried about me ... whats going on ???

[guitar62]

anybody there ?

[shheadz]

I play bass, and the only time I can really play worth a damn is when I'm feeling down. I mean, you can't play the blues unless you're feeling blue, right? I don't know what to tell you. All my hobbies fell by the way side when I started dating my ex. We pretty much became the focus of each other's attention. That's not a mistake I'll make again. Maybe you need to back off of your girl a little, and give yourself some more free time. Missing her on the nights you're not together might provide a little inspiration.

[FullofSighs]

yeah, it seems like your more into being with your girlfriend and spending time with her than giving yourself some time. I advise you should set a time when its just you or just you and your friends. Otherwise you may just get sick of each other and fights may start and then you might break up.

[guitar62]

thanks for your hints !!
Could'nt it be that my music hobby was just an escape because of my unhappy marriage ?

Now that I found a new love no escape needed for me ?
I made music to impress other people , to be honest - now that I'm in love - no need to "impress" other people anymore, I'm so happy in love ... I dont need to impress her with my skills - its just love , just me - not my skills ....

By the way, she used to paint pictures before - she feels no "need" to paint anymore too .....

Maybe it's because we're our "hobby" for eachother ???

OK, I invited a friend in my studio next sunday .... my girlfriend will join our session ...
Lets see how it works and if its fun :-)

[guitar62]

it was fun making music again and to have her with me watching the studio session , but she said it was boring for her :-( ......

[Hillbilly]

I think music is a great escape from our troubles. You will regret giving it up if you choose to do so. Put away some time for yourself for playing.,I think she loves you enough to honor that time.

[guitar62]

thanks for your comment Hillbilly ....

No need to escape for me at the moment .... but who knows ....
My excessive music hobby was one reason too why my marriage with my ex broke up ....
It was an escape from trouble but caused the trouble too .... don't remember what came first .... lots of music and than trouble OR trouble and then lots of music ....
It might have been a boring marriage with my ex , so I made a lot music to escape which destroyed the marriage in the end .... I dont wanna make that happen again with my new love - can you understand ?