im kinda confused

[surp]

ok so i met this girl a while back at work she was a customer i talked to her for a bit just as i normally do then i added her on facebook but never really talked to her untill few weeks ago i saw her post on facebook pretty much saying that she's going through tough time cuz her boyfriend broke up with her so i sent her a msg telling her that i hope she feel better soon and that i was the same way not long ago (i was recently dumped too) i told her if she ever needed to talk she can talk to me

and so she did she msg me back telling the whole story and what not she just needed to vent it out and im glad i could help her feel better after that we sent few more msg to each other and chat a few times untill about a week ago i chat with her and she seems to be so much better we actaully talked about normal stuffs not just about her ex anymore so i decided to ask her out and she said yes!

i asked her if she was busy this weekend she said yes so i gave her my number and she said she will let me know when she can go and she gave me her number at this point i was gonna wait untill she call but something came up my friends inform me that they will have a pool party in couple weeks i want to invite her and i want to make sure i give her enough time if she needs to take off from work or whatever so i decided to text her "hey how are u?" her reply was "hey who is this?" i was kinda upset she didnt even put my number in her phone! but then i thought im just gonna tell her about party anyway so i told her it was me and if she wanted to come to party blah blah blah and she texted me back "yeah thatd be awesome" so i told her i will call her let her know details later she said ok so i did call her later that day but she didnt pick up the phone so i left her a msg tell her to call me back its been 2 days and i havnt heard from her yet....

so right now its really confusing me i don't know if shes really interested or not i mean she could have said no when i ask her out ok maybe shes trying to be nice but she really didnt have to give me her number then she said she would let me know but she didnt even put my number in her phone(im sure she still have it on her facebook tho) but then if shes not interested she could difinately said no when i invite her to party

whats going on!???!? what should i do?!??

[xxazurexx]

Been in her shoes.

I've got failed relationships behind me too and I will chat about it constantly and to anyone who cares to listen.....Women like to talk and will talk to anyone who is there to listen.

Some guy in the past has also given me his number, maybe I've passed mine along, but there has has never been any real intention of dating this guy.
Why did I do it? Likely because he was bugging me and I felt a bit sorry for him and I didn't want to be nasty.

If he called, I'd find some excuse. 'I'm busy' or 'I've got plans for that evening', hoping he'd get the hint and that he wouldn't call back.

Of course he'd ring again and that is when I'd ignore him....hoping that if I did ignore, he'd finally get the message and go away.

Need I continue??

[TAVS]

Do you really want to be the rebound guy? Nothing good will come of it

[surp]

thanks for input

yeah well like i said i just got out of relationship myself probably less than a month before she did so i dont really care about being rebound guy or whatever im just trying to put myself out there start dating again see where things lead me if it works out thats great if not then oh well i have nothing to lose i just want to try to have fun again

the problem here isnt "OMG I NEED TO GET A DATE WITH THIS GIRL! WHAT CAN I DO" the thing is if she would have said no or ignore me or make up excuses i would get the message but she kept saying yes thats why its confusing me i think im just gonna let it be maybe i will ask her again if shes still coming to party when its closer if she say no then i will know

[lahnnabell]

In my experience, guys say they prefer women to be upfront, but it is really incredibly awkward to be put in that position. A guy asks you out, you can either give him your number and look like a nice girl who is interested, or be honest and say "No" and get called a bitch, or stuck up, or whatever other name. Most women prefer the former. After going through a few different scenarios last year, I stopped giving out my number altogether. I started getting texts from one guy always asking me how my day was and what I was up to. I grew less and less interested with every text he sent.