Should you ever take back a desperate ex?

[pepper]

Hi,

So I dated this guy last year for about 2 months and then broke up with him. I tried to get him back a few days later and he told me that we were just wrong for each other and that he wanted to move on. About a year later he calls me up a month before he is going away to China for the year to teach. He was drunk...or so it seemed and told me he wanted me back. I have been crazy for this guy since we met...and I took him back. It has been a few months and we talk on MSN all of the time...but now I feel like something is missing. I guess I just keep thinking he is only with me because he wanted to be with somebody and not me in particular. Is it possible that he really wanted to be with? Can it last?

[rwoodham]

I don't think it would last if he's in China and your here in the US. Why did you break up with him after only 2 months and then try to get give back right away? That's a bit awkward if u ask me.

[4dvz]

Yeah I agree with rwoodham, doesn`t make sense to break up with somebody like that and then try to get him back after 2 days.. Sends out a very unbalanced impression of you.
It neither makes sense from him to call you after an year when you only dated for 2 months, and it doesn`t make sense for you guys to get back together one month before he leaves the country for an year.
I don`t thing he just wants to be with you for the sake of being with somebody, because you would imagine that he would like to be single when getting a whole new life for 1 year in another country. But the smartest thing for you two to do would be to agree on staying just friends for the time he`s away and then give it another try when he gets back, if you`re still single by then. You can still talk all the time on MSN but without the strange situation.. just my toughts

[iceblue]

I disagree with the "he wouldn't get back with you for the sake of being with somebody" idea in the above post. If he's going off to a foreign country for a year, then he may want to be with her so that he'll feel wanted and won't be lonely while he's gone.

[4dvz]

Well that would be incredibly selfish. Possible tough, but just can`t imagine a standard guy doing that.