First Date Went So Well But.....

[BarmyArmy]

So theres this bird who works at Tesco near to where I work.
About 2months ago started talking to her and got on like a house on fire.
2 weeks ago she gave me number

Then last week I asked her out, so we ended up going for Spanish Tapas on Saturday just gone, she had a really good time, asked me if i was free maybe in the week to go for a drink so was all looking good.
Dropped her off afterwards, everything hunky-dory.
Get a text saying thanks really enjoyed myself im off to bed night.

Yesterday I get a text saying, enjoyed myself, only see you as a mate.

What the ****

Brother said not to go back into Tesco.
Bloke at work told me not to let her stop me going in there and to come with him this lunch time!!

What to do?

I hate *****es

[xxazurexx]

Obviously she's just been playing along with you and pretending to have a good time, so as not to hurt your feelings. Rather than reject you outright, she's hung on until the next day to do it.

Maybe she did like you in the beginning, but something has changed since then - maybe something has put her off and since that night.

Maybe her ex bf came back on the scene.

Could be a variety of reasons.

I've seen women say the same about a guy. Date went extremely well, he'd appeared to be really enjoying himself and into her - next day a phone call, he isn't 'feeling' it.....or she just never hears from him again. At least this girl had the decency to be honest with you.

[BarmyArmy]

Thanks

But there was no need to say come out for a drink in the week if she new full well she werent interested.
The date did go well tho, maybe something about me she didint like?

[BarmyArmy]

Haha brilliant.

Right walked in and she was on the tills so walked right didint see me, did shopping went to pay and she werent there.
So yorkshire work mate and I standing there beign served by some other dude.
They joked I would be carrying the bags, then she popped up and started filling up the fag shelves.
Yorkshrie mate goes to the other tesco dude, nah hes a top lad like haha she twigged and turned half round and smiled ha.

When walking to the tills she waved and said a big hello, i said hello back you alright type a thing and that was about it

[Gribble]

Oh my god. I don't think I've ever read such deep English slang. You should move to America. Women would find you so cute.

Forget the chick. Go to Tesco all you want and forget about it. It's nothing personal. This happens. I think women go home after even a date they've enjoyed and then they analyze everything. That's why it seems to be going good and she gives you such positive signals. They're genuine. But she goes home, really mulls it over, and determines that maybe you aren't such a great match for her. Just find another bird (hehehe) and keep trying, man. No harm, no foul.

[xxazurexx]

Oh my god. I don't think I've ever read such deep English slang. You should move to America. Women would find you so cute.

Forget the chick. Go to Tesco all you want and forget about it. It's nothing personal. This happens. I think women go home after even a date they've enjoyed and then they analyze everything. That's why it seems to be going good and she gives you such positive signals. They're genuine. But she goes home, really mulls it over, and determines that maybe you aren't such a great match for her. Just find another bird (hehehe) and keep trying, man. No harm, no foul.

I'm figuring he's from Yorkshire. If you think that is bad slang, you want to hear the slang where I come from. North East is much worse.

I try not to use slang and in forums, you wouldn't understand a word I typed if I used it, lol.

[xxazurexx]

Thanks

But there was no need to say come out for a drink in the week if she new full well she werent interested.
The date did go well tho, maybe something about me she didint like?

Maybe you picked your nose a couple of times and it put her off....I dunno, could have been anything - the noisy way you slurped your drink, etc....

I have a sis who met this guy a few weeks back. Really, really liked him at first.....and then they went for a meal one night and she said he ate like a pig. Making noises and eating with his mouth wide open....she dumped him a few days after, lol

Just goes to show how little things can prove to be turn offs.

[Gratedwasabi]

Maybe an ex that dumped her called her and she got giddy and got rid of you to open the way back to him? Maybe she didn't find you attractive? Maybe she just wanted someone to buy her dinner? Who knows, don't sweat it. At least she didn't string you along after the date. Definitely don't let it stop you from going in there, you did nothing wrong.

[BarmyArmy]

Im actually from London ha!

Yeah she broke up with her ex like 3 - 4 weeks ago, so maybe hes back on the scene?
She told me that she told him to **** off and dont want nothing to do with him, but course she is going to say that.

I can assure you, I didint eat like a pig, or slurp my drink and I even cut the chicken of the skewer for her lol.

She text me on the evening after, I had a ncie time thanks really enjoyed it, do it again yeah?
Then Sunday comes and her text says " really did enjoy it, see you as a mate"

Yeah maybe she did analyze everything and thought I wasnt the one, but we have spoke like 5 times in Tesco for like a good 20minutes and hit it off, she would always be laughing.

Saturday night after, she held my hand all the way back to the car, a good 15minute walk too, thru a busy high street!
Then when she got out the car, she gave me a massive hug and a kiss!

[xxazurexx]

Im actually from London ha!

OK, well your mate's from Yorkshire then, you mentioned Yorkshire...god dammit!! lol

Yeah she broke up with her ex like 3 - 4 weeks ago, so maybe hes back on the scene?
She told me that she told him to **** off and dont want nothing to do with him, but course she is going to say that.

I can assure you, I didint eat like a pig, or slurp my drink and I even cut the chicken of the skewer for her lol.

She text me on the evening after, I had a ncie time thanks really enjoyed it, do it again yeah?
Then Sunday comes and her text says " really did enjoy it, see you as a mate"

Yeah maybe she did analyze everything and thought I wasnt the one, but we have spoke like 5 times in Tesco for like a good 20minutes and hit it off, she would always be laughing.

Saturday night after, she held my hand all the way back to the car, a good 15minute walk too, thru a busy high street!
Then when she got out the car, she gave me a massive hug and a kiss!

Probably not over her ex then, not completely anyway or he's back on the scene calling her and texting.

She probably actually likes you, but the timing could be just all wrong for her. Like as in she has an ex still lurking. Obviously still carrying baggage from her previous relationship and until she's over that, she won't be seeking more and with any guy. He will come first and while she remains hung up on him.

[BarmyArmy]

Ok, but what is a good reason to come up with : " i just see you as a mate"
Why ask for my no.?
When i asked her originally she said no because things are complicated with her boyfriend.

Then she asked me 2 weeks ago for mine now single and then we hit it off, we always hit it off.

Yesterday in Tesco she saw me and was big smiles and massive wave and a big hello how are you


I jsut dont get it, do i keep going in and maybe ask her in a week or two if she wants to come out with some mates and ill bring some mates out?

[Gribble]

I went on a date once that seemed perfect. We made out half the time. She held my arm and rested her head on my shoulder as we walked. I gave her my coat to wear. It was like something out of a sappy romance movie. Dropped her off. Called a few days later. No answer. I never could figure out what went wrong. I thought it was a sure thing. That's just the way it goes. You can't let yourself get too hung up on one person. That's why it's always best to date multiple women at a time. You won't even care if one chick flakes out on you so long as you've got another hot date lined up.

[BarmyArmy]

Wish i could date mutilple women at one time, its been ages since ive been on a date

[xxazurexx]

Ok, but what is a good reason to come up with : " i just see you as a mate"
Why ask for my no.?

Shit like this happens all the time you know. People exchange numbers, meet up....and it comes to nothing. Your case isn't unique love, it isn't the 'first' time it's happened and it won't be the last.....lol

I've given guys my number when I was younger....but they didn't ring me. Guys gave me their number and I didnt ring them.....its no biggie!
I've also dated guys once or twice and they never showed an interest in seeing me again - and vice versa.
Some people 'CLICK', feelings are 'mutual' and they go on to long term relationships/marriage.......some people don't.
You won't 'click' with everyone you meet or go on dates with.

She sees you as a mate, so I'd just leave it at that/move on. I know you like her, but it's not like you invested a lot of time in her - you had ONE date.

Am sure there are plenty more gals in London who are available

[BarmyArmy]

Thanks well said