Could Bluffing her possibly work????

[ash101]

Hi iv just come out of a 13 year relationship and we have a son of 5.

Shes told me she dosnt have no feelings for me anymore and were nver gona get back together.I think the only thing she is missing is the familly thing.
we split 10 weeks ago in that we tried to sort things out twice but with no result.

I see here almost every day because of our son which is taking its toll on me as i think i could deal with it easyer if i didnt have to see her.
Now i love Her to bits and all i want is for us to be happy and also get our familly unit back.
Untill now iv told her prity much every time i see her i love her and want to get back but she aint having any of it.
But now im thinking a last ditch effort of trying to go the other way and pretending that Iv realised its for the best and that I dont think getting back together is for the best.

Now I dont know if this is a good idea or would be just making it easyer for her. Or would it be a case of she knows shes in control and she knows she could just click her fingers and id come running back.

I know this is mind games and may seem like madness to you but my head is so upside down at the moment and i just cant seem to let go.

Could thiss possibly work or am i just clutching to straws????
Thanks ash101

[MaidenMinx]

I don't recommend this course of action simply because it has too many chances of backfiring. What happens if she takes you at your word, assumes you're both moving on? You're left feeling as you do with no room to communicate anything without having to admit you intentionally played a mind game. Not a good look.

I know you're hurting. I can't imagine that level of hurt. She's made it clear that she wants to move on, which leaves you with 2 choices. Pine over her forever, being a sad example for your child OR learn to get over her and move on also. I'm not saying either choice is easy, but one is certainly less painful in the long term and I'm sure you know which one I mean.

[HeartIsAching]

It won't work.

What MaidenMinx said is true.

[devonbrown]

When MaidenMinx said this -

Pine over her forever, being a sad example for your child OR learn to get over her and move on also.

it is true. Anything else is just a waste. A waste of time, a waste of emotion, etc. Games don't work, so don't play them.

You have to work on making yourself happy right now. Your son deserves to see both his parents happy, even if they are happy individually and not together.

Good luck.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Don't speak to her anymore than is absolutely necessary. You should start taking your son somewhere else to spend time with him. If she objects, you need to file for joint custody immediately. Don't tell her directly that you're moving on from her unless she asks you, but show her that you are by severing contact. Don't ask her how she is doing, don't ask her what's going on, don't even ask her about your son. Just say hello, then go straight to the kid.

[ash101]

Thanks evryone for your advise.
My head is so messed up at the moment and I know i cant make her love me.Its just iv been around her a lot and I dont think she seen much of singal life in the last 10 weeks.
I just thought it may shock her into thinking more of the biger picture.
But i guess its deeper than that ie.That word LOVE!!
And I know nothing can change that.

Thanks