Already starting to get jealous in a 2 month relationship

[john0607]

Hi all,

I've been dating this great girl for 2 months now and I'm already starting to get jealous of most likely petty things and she's starting to pull away because I've brought them up.

1. She goes out clubbing and dances with her girlfriends. She's only gone 1ce since we've been together. She says she doesn't dance with guys but I find that hard to believe because when we started dating she told me how she has a low self esteem. I would think that dancing would boost her self esteem. She dances very sexy and said she thinks she it is going to make me jealous when I see her dance.

2. She has slept with a lot of guys in the past. She said she lost count. I wish she never told me. She said she's never cheated on a boyfriend however when I asked her about this she made a weird gesture with her body and made eye contact only partially.

3. Her best friend is a guy for 13 years. She even told me that he most likely has something for her because he is a dude and she is absolutely beautiful. She says she's not attracted to him at all and she's never kissed or did anything with him like that. She does smile when she talks about him though. She saw him this weekend and didn't even talk about us. I thought that was kind of odd since she is best friends with the guy. I asked her about it and she said that they had other topics to talk about. She also said that she doesn't talk to him about everything. I believe she talked to him about us and that he is persuading her away from me.

4. She is unbelievable in bed. I know this is from all of her past experiences and I can respect that but it is a mind f***. It's hard to get over the fact she's slept with so many guys.

5. She talks about her ex's all the time. Especially her last bf of 3 years. She started dating me 1 day after she broke up with her ex of 3 years.

Wow now that this is all down on a forum I feel the answer is pretty simple. She's not the right girl for me. Am I going crazy?

I want it to work with us but I'm not sure I can keep a cool head with these issues existing. She's starting to pull away and she said it's turning her off that I'm already jealous. I told her that it's just a phase and that I'll get over it once I get to know her more.

How do I deal with these issues?

John

[maxmax]

Trust her, or lose her.

Until you have have reason to legitimately suspect infidelity, learn to do the above.

[Jenswaiting]

5. She talks about her ex's all the time. Especially her last bf of 3 years. She started dating me 1 day after she broke up with her ex of 3 years.
Wow now that this is all down on a forum I feel the answer is pretty simple. She's not the right girl for me. Am I going crazy? I want it to work with us but I'm not sure I can keep a cool head with these issues existing. She's starting to pull away and she said it's turning her off that I'm already jealous. I told her that it's just a phase and that I'll get over it once I get to know her more. How do I deal with these issues?

Your intuition is telling you something is wrong for a reason. You are obviously seeing things that make you feel uncomfortable. I assume you have feelings for her and therefore you feel as though you are going crazy? I think you've you've already answered your own question.

IMHO number 5 is a red flag. She didn't have any time to get over her last and she talking about him all the time, this is not a good sign. Unfortunately you are her rebound relationship. You will probably get hurt if you stay in the relationship much longer.

It's probably a good idea to take a step back and sort out your head. Try to be less emotional about it and weigh the factors as rationally as you can.