Should I just tell her? What should I do next?

[dougy2009]

Right now, I am having a big dilemma. I am having a crushing on that girl who is one year older than me. I don't think age difference should be a problem. But the problem is that her former boyfriend is my best friend now. But I don't care about it if she loves me back.

One thing that brings me and her closer is that we take some classes together this semester. We also study together in a room which makes me more attached to her. I also text her like everyday even for small general questions like "how was ur day" just to stay in touch and let her know I care about her. She always replied nicely. So I kept texting her everyday to see whether she noticed my intentions and like it or not. But so far, she always replied nicely.
And then last week, she even asked me to come to her classroom to accompany her since she was bored. Does it mean she is also interested in me? maybe even likes me?

One dumb thing is that I don't know whether she already has a boyfriend. There is no such one that I know of, but she is always charming, and sociable, so I won't be surprised if she has a boyfriend that I don't know.

So my question is "Should I just tell her what I feel about her?" although it might risk our close "friendship". Or "should I ask her out?" to see what she thinks about me. Please suggest what I should do next.

Sorry for my lengthy post. Thanks!

[tblr]

You should just tell her how you feel about her. You may be thinking that she will 'run away' or not talk to you etc, but if you tell her, and she likes you, there will be no problem; you just ask her out to do something and all that. If she doesn't like you, she may still be ok with it and still want to hang out with you, and she may even grow to like you. Or, she will feel awkward or something like that and not tallk to you or want to hang out with you. This is the risk you have to take. But if you don't tell her, then you may get mixed signals in whether she likes you etc and things can go wrong, if you get what I mean. Personally, I think telling someone how you feel about them is one of the first steps you have to take. If they are interested, or don't mind, then you know how they feel about you; and so then you can decide what to do next.

All my life, I have never told a girl to her face that I liked her. She would only find out through my friends telling her (cos they think I'm being a wuss). Things never worked out. So a few weeks a go, I told the girl I like now that I liked her, to her face. First time I've done it. But now I know what she thinks about me and she knows what I think about her, so I have some idea where to take things now. Them knowing what you think about them can kind of 'influence' them as some might start thinking about you more etc.

Just take the risk. If she 'runs away' then maybe things wearn't meant to be. Sorry to sound a bit harsh there