need advice on boyfriends actions

[saving_grace]

Ok so 3 weeks ago my Boyfriend of 22 months told me about a woman at a gas station that had been hitting on him. he said he he was friendly with her.. yes he is a flirt and normally that is all it is.
well he told me alot of the information. and I guess the convos got sexual between them.. I desided to call the station and report the person for her unprofessional behaviour. I did not give names Mine his or hers.. I just gave the owner a idea of what she looked like.
Anyway the Owners husband and my Boyfriend know each other. and later that day he sent me a text that he knew about the call and was Pi$$ed that I called there. and that the girl was fired over it..
Now fast forward 3 weeks he is very busy at work and with his kids.. but he is Making me wait to talk about this until hopefully next week. He was out of town for a week this week.
we have talked but he avoids and actually ignores any questions i ask about us.Just chit chat only. He has not told me he loves me since the day I called there. Yes I guess I should have let him handle it but I know he would have done the same or worse...
How can I get thing back on tract with us and get him to talk..
I keep having breakdowns and balling like a baby and then I send him emails and text Begging him to forgive me and to talk to me.. I know it would be betterif I let him alone and let him have a few days to realize I am not there and he wants me there. Please help me figure this out cause I feel I am going totally crazy I know he does love me..
thank you

[UdoKier]

If he does love you, its good he has the willpower and intelligence to keep you in check. Otherwise he would be a victim of your possessive behavior.

[joeyraz]

hye Grace,

for a 22 month old relationship, im guessin uve built quite a strong foundation at it? If so, you would need to talk it out with him. No point of balling like a baby or crying over this. I am sure he will forgive you. In a r/ship, its all about COMMUNICATING. Do this right and both of you will understand the situation better. Couples should always make it known to each other of what they like or what they dont like. In your case, its maybe the flirting. If your BF is committed in the r/ship, he must understand that he should only flirt with you. Because loyalty counts, aside from being faithful. Plus, its not all that bad flirting with his own GF.

On the other hand, being possessive is also a bad habit. Guys dont like being possessed. We are not objects. Couples should draw a line here. Give him some freedom and space but make sure that its nothing vice or anything that could jeopardize your current r/ship.

My best advice to you is that, be firm and sincere in what you want to communicate about. I hope you will have a healthy and loving r/ship. Take care Grace.

[saving_grace]

Thank you Joey. For your insite.

As for childish behavior no I'm far from being a child and so is he. When I have more Time I will type out more of the from both sides.
I may be wrong to ball like a baby but he or anyone else does not see it. It happens when I'm alone. I think every one needs a good cry some times. I've just had More than my share lately.
I have stopped texting and calling him. I am leaving him be for now. I'm sure he'll be calling me come Monday. When he is done with horse shows with his kids. If not. I will worry about that when it comes.

[surfhb]

You are acting like a kid so the first thing to do is apologize for that and start communicating better. You could have averted this whole situation by acting like an adult.

On the same token your bf needs to understand his actions are hurtful. Sit down and disscuss it.....not cry

[saving_grace]

I HAVE NOT CRIED TO HIM> Only when I am alone!
I have cried because he will not talk about it I am frustrated and missing him!! He will say hello and chit chat and nothing more. IF I bring it up in text or talk he avoids or ignores it comepletely. He will not come talk to me. I get "i'm Busy with work" I asked when can we talk about it and I get IDFK and then he'll call and create small talk and avoid the whole problem. I am sick an Tired of NOT talking
But at the same time I don't want to piss him off further by pushing him to talk. as for being possisive I am far from it. I have never been like this befor this time.
I think I have been Very patient and very Adult like in most of this.. Yes I have had a breakdown here and there but all in all I have been OK. I have TRIED TO COMUNICATE. he shuts that door. what I need is the key to open it.

[saving_grace]

If he does love you, its good he has the willpower and intelligence to keep you in check. Otherwise he would be a victim of your possessive behavior.

And him doing the same to me is OK then What ever!!

[saving_grace]

your post makes no since at all I have known him to short to love him/???? we have been together for 22 months and known each other 5 years.

I am not a "BITCH" woman. like most are .. I actually care about people. Have a great day!!

How old are you? really? So sounds so childish. You know him to short to talk about loving him and stuff.

And you are crazy i think, to do all of that while the men himself dont want to be with you and doesn't take you serious.,

Its sad that you did that and now you are begging him and say sorry? Be a woman and stand your ground for what you did!
Cause right now you ARre telling him that he can walk all over you and you will feel sorry if he gives you the silence treatment.

If you are a strong woman let him come to you and tell you he is sorry.
Cause it was childish and weird of you , but he could have see it from another side also after being mad.
And have a serious talk with you about that childish behavior.