I don't know why I'm with him

[prettygal]

So lately I feel that my boyfriend doesn't love me at all. We have a 10 month old baby together and when I ask him why he is with me he says that its because of the baby. He has been acting different lately and he barely calls me. When he calls he doesn't say much and hangs up really quick. He never comes over to my house, but wants me to go over to his house everyday basically. He isn't really affectionate and I just feel very unloved lately. I don't know what to do, but the thought of breaking up makes me sad.

[searock]

Could he be depressed? In any case, you need to have a serious talk with him. Tell him that you feel unwanted and unloved (say things like "When you don't ever come at my place, I feel unloved"), and things need to change, if he wants to continue being with you.

Personally, I think that either he is depressed, or he's seeing someone else. He's probably feeling guilty about it. How old are you both?

[InYourFACE]

So now he told you, how it is, so what you gonna do!

[Boisdevie]

Well then you really are up shit creek aren't you? And you've had a child with this tosser? Excellent lifestyle choice there. Is your pseudonym really 'Prettystupidgal' because it should be.

[prettygal]

Could he be depressed? In any case, you need to have a serious talk with him. Tell him that you feel unwanted and unloved (say things like "When you don't ever come at my place, I feel unloved"), and things need to change, if he wants to continue being with you.

Personally, I think that either he is depressed, or he's seeing someone else. He's probably feeling guilty about it. How old are you both?

I'm 21 and he is 20. Lately I try to kiss him and he seems annoyed when I do or he turns away or ignores me. I barely hear from him now and before he use to call me all the time. I'm just not happy with this relationship and it feels like I'm the only willing to change things. I don't know if i should keep trying or not.

[smackie9]

Just ask him what would make him happy, to work on the relationship or just to call it quits. Deal with it when you get your answer.

[bcgirl]

You two are very young to take on the whole responsibility of having a kid. He is only 20 and it is quite normal for a teen that age to want to explore other women. Yes it is wrong cuz he has a gf and a baby, but at that age he is young, dumb and full of come. What 20 yr old guy wants the responsibility of being a father? While women tend to mature faster, men at that age don't. U two should have really planned the future first before deciding on having a baby. If u aren't happy then leave him, u can't force someone to change

[Wakeup]

Okay.. what the fk ever happened to:
1. Meeting a guy
2. Seeing if you have what it takes to last together.
3. Both of you getting a good education and/or a decent paying job with a future.
4. Getting married and or living together for a few years before..
5. Having a baby together.

Why are so many young people skipping so many bloody important steps before having children? You two aren't even a real couple for goodness sakes. He's told you he doesn't want a relationship with you and he's only there for the baby. That is the sad truth of your situation so now you have to accept that fact and make your life the best it can be by getting your education and a good job because your baby now takes precedence over you and your romantic life.

Dump the loser, Make sure he's paying support and that a workable visitation schedule is arranged so that you spend as little time as possible with him (that means baby goes with him to his house) work on being the best you that you can be and bring your baby up so that she'll not skip all the important to your emotional health steps noted above.

[bcgirl]

Yes a lot of young ppl these days on this forum without stable relationship winding up pregnant. Jeez. Many insecure girls think that having a baby will take problems and worries away (secure a man, be a mom with a man to help play house). This is backwards thinking because 99% of the time they end up single moms or in shitty relationships unhappy. They end up single, with baggage, broke, no education and 20 pounds heavier. A baby should be the biggest decision one has to make, be cautious before having one, practice safe sex!!!!

[smackie9]

Yes a lot of young ppl these days on this forum without stable relationship winding up pregnant. Jeez. Many insecure girls think that having a baby will take problems and worries away (secure a man, be a mom with a man to help play house). This is backwards thinking because 99% of the time they end up single moms or in shitty relationships unhappy. They end up single, with baggage, broke, no education and 20 pounds heavier. A baby should be the biggest decision one has to make, be cautious before having one, practice safe sex!!!!

Agreed, and stop depending on just using a condom...you need to use a spermicidal foam or cream with it.