Girlfriend lives with parents and gets mad when I don't want to come over

[A1234]

Hi, I need some advise. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 4 months now. I live on my own and she lives with her parents. We currently hang out about 3-4 times a week. Usually she will come over to my house, sometimes I will come over to her parents place but that's usually once a week. For the past month or so she's been getting mad at me for not coming over to her place as often as she comes over to my place. In my defense she still lives with her parents, I don't want her parents getting tired of me and I also want to respect their privacy. Yet she always incists that they don't care and that I should still come over all the time. Also I don't feel all that comfortable being around her parents all the time, growing up I never liked going over to my friends' houses bc I felt that their parents didn't want me their. My parents never liked it when I had my friends over so I always feel like other parents are like that. I just don't know how to tell her that. I don't want to come over all the time, that its not that I don't like her parents I just feel uncomfortable being their all the time. Any advise?

[Wakeup]

There is a compromise in there somewhere. I think if you love this girl, you'll find it, apply it and live happily with it ~ ever after.

[basilandthyme]

Her parents aren't your parents. If she's happily living at home, it's more than likely that her parents are supportive of her friends and boyfriends coming and going. You will probably find that they even enjoy talking with you.

Anyway, she's mad because she's seeing you as selfish because you won't make the effort to go see her. She feels like she's doing all the work. And she's pissed because she's known her parents forever and you don't believe what she says about their attitudes to visitors.

Get over it and start visiting....or you'll lose her.

[smackie9]

As you get older, being part of your S/O's family is very important. Grow up you are not a kid anymore. You respect her wishes to spend time over at her parents, get to know them. If you have future plans to get married some day this will be good practice.