they wont accept us

[munch1204]

I've been in love with my friend for over two years. We finally got together in December. The only problem is we are both girls and we have a 7 year age gap. Her parents just found out and they won't accept us being together. What can I do to help them realise we are in love and we are ment to be together. I just want them to accept us

[Cerby]

They won't accept it because it's a lesbian relationship or because of the age gap? More details please. What they've said, etc.

[munch1204]

Both reasons. They don't like their daughter being with a girl. And the age difference they don't like either. She's 18 and I'm 25 next month. They said that they were devastated that she's gay and that she's with someone who is a lot older.

[pcmaster]

If they gona see that you both have a positive impact on eachother lives they will be more relaxed. But even some hetero couples are never really acepted by parents because their kids deserve the best partner on this planet - no less. Its just at some point parents lose they authority to teach kids how to live cause kids become adults but parents - just old guys.

[Cerby]

I will venture the gay thing is probably weighing on them MUCH more than the age thing, that is just an addition they can tack onto the problem.

This is an issue that she will need to work through with her parents, and you need to stay as much out of as possible. Parents accepting their child "coming out of the closet" can be incredibly difficult, especially if it is their only child (chance of grandkids = 0). Continue with the relationship with her, but as far as them "accepting" you goes, that isn't up to you, and anything you try to do will likely make it worse.

[smackie9]

You are going to have to give them their space to take all this in. They are in total shock, and they are going to need a lot of time to take it all in and adjust to it. They are just heart broken that not only their daughter just throw this at them, but is dating an adult. They are parents, what they are doing is instinctive...they want to protect their daughter. So be respectful and back off. Let her deal with it on her own for now.

[surfhb2]

If Republican Senator Rob Portman can support gays the. I think your GFs parents will too.

I think you just need to give them time and remember this is NOT your fault and is their problem. It's just an inconvenience to you guys....nothing more

[basilandthyme]

There's nothing you can do. This is between your girlfriend and her parents