Weird behavioural problem . want suggestions to correct it .

[arslan_sweeto1]

Hi guys,
the matter i want to discuss and want your advise on is not specific rather general ..
i m 23 old guy . plain n simple . i enjoy company of male friends.
i can discuss anything with them and crack weird jokes .
on opposite of it, i'm not that much into girls. mean i don't feel special for any girl at workplace or its like girl feel like burden to me. (i'm not gay lol)

so n so, this is a girl everyone is crazy about due to her intelligence. she is my junior. she got to work with me for one assignment. n everyone was like you r so lucky ,. u got a chance . n im like .whats special in it .
so and so . she kinda complained one of our friends that i remain silent n dont talk much .
n very next day we sat in front of each other silent for 7-8 hours without a word.

But thats not the thing that bothers me .
the thing that bothers me is that i dont want complete boycott of girls . i think this will result into negative image of me in girls. i want to just have friend relationship with them . just a mate like one . win win for both . between girls n me .
how to take initiative for this.
i don't have GF . it can be one thing that i m not that much into girls. what should i do to keep it to lowest sustainable with girls. so that no one gets problem with it .

[pcmaster]

So just be friendly to them. Break the ice.

[Gumby]

Girls are hard to understand, and I too find most of them difficult to have relationships with. In all honesty you seem kind of like a male version of me. In general guys seem easier to talk to and have a wider sense of humor than most girls I have met, so I don't really think there's much wrong with feeling more at ease around guys. I am by no means talkative, so sometimes people will also mention to some of my friends that I never speak to them. Two of my room mates are girls and even though I am not very close to them, we get along and talk once and a while. I don't have much in common with them, but sometimes we'll talk about classes, work, weird things that happened. It's not like we have to have anything in common to talk about stuff like that. For example, if something weird or amusing happens at work, I'll just mention it to them if we're in the same space. Usually they'll tell me about something similar or slightly related that happened to them. If something happens that you think is cool or different, there's no harm in mentioning it casually (as long as it's not offensive,) the way you might with your friends. It'll probably make whomever you're talking to realize that you just don't talk much and it's nothing against them. If she tells you something, you should try to relate, ask more about it, or smile if it's amusing and you can't think of anything to say. Sometimes if I'm working with people I don't know, and I don't know what to say, I'll go grab something to eat or drink and offer to get them something. That's another thing I have found that lets people know you like them and are just a quiet person. What's most helpful is finding out something about the other person. For example, one of room mates loves tea, so she and I will talk about tea, or one of my co-workers has children so I'll ask her about them and if she has any new pictures. Casually showing interest in something about another person is also helpful in creating a good relationship. I hope this stuff is helpful to you. I am a very shy and awkward person with very few close friends, but I find stuff like this is really good for maintaining a friendly relationship with someone, even if you don't talk very much.

It also really helps the other person understand that you are merely quiet and don't dislike them or anything. I think that's often a big misunderstanding when you don't talk to someone, sometimes it gives them the impression that you are unhappy or don't like them. The girl you mention probably said something to your friend, because she misunderstood your quietness for dislike or something along these lines.