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  1. 21-05-14, 06:27 AM #16
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    Quote Originally Posted by Soconfused30 View Post
    There was CCTV footage of the consensual sex not of the rape, and then footage of the attack, I'm not trying to make excuses just simply trying understand it all so I appreciate everyone's opinions, he has received counselling all also didn't serve the full sentence so I'm assuming they didn't see him as a threat to anyone to let him out early. And when I said in head over heels I didn't mean that this would make me ignore a deal breaker, just trying to explain that what I have learnt about him up until this point has all been positive.
    Are you saying you've talked to him then? If you haven't then how do you know he's received councelling? Sorry for all the questions but how do you know any of it to be the truth?

    There was CCTV of the "consensual" sex. You've already assumed that she didn't say "no" then?

    Did you talk to him?
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    Ok, lets humour him for a moment and pretend the sex was consensual. Why did he assault her? I can't imagine a guy assaulting a consenting partner either before or after sex.
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    Unless the sex was really bad.
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    Quote Originally Posted by basilandthyme View Post
    Ok, lets humour him for a moment and pretend the sex was consensual. Why did he assault her? I can't imagine a guy assaulting a consenting partner either before or after sex.
    Yes just another unanswered question. I've asked several that haven't been answered. How did you find this all out if he didn't tell you about it is one. That in itself is a red flag to not outright tell you BEFORE you fall for him so that you can make an informed decision on whether to carry on with him or not.

    Who introduced you or how did you discover that CCTV footage, op?
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  5. 21-05-14, 09:26 AM #20
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    Quote Originally Posted by Soconfused30 View Post
    It's not that I don't think I can leave, if that's what I decide to do then I will do it, I'm a strong person and always stick with my decisions but just as a person now is what's making me think about not doing, I felt like I'd found my soul mate until I found this out


    Soul mate is a scary term.

    Don't think there are not other guys out there for you you can connect on the same or higher level.
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