He wants me to lose weight

[bcgirl]

there are a million guys out there in this world that will love you for just you and think you are beautiful and shouldn't change anything about yourself.

[MaidenMinx]

Chicky, if I showed your photo to most of the guys I know they would be tripping over their jaws and slipping on their drool. Especially my brothers. They'd especially get a kick out of the fact that you are participating in archery.

If you want to be more fit, do it for you. If you are happy how you are, kick him to the curb. He has planted a seed of doubt you do not need.

[bcgirl]

80% of women have cellulite. He can go get himself a 10/10 supermodel....but i betcha he ain't good looking nor rich enough for that.

[bluesummer]

Lord, I went through the same thing. When I was 19 I was 5'8" and about 130 lbs. I thought I looked pretty good until my bf and his family told me I'd packed on a ton of weight. It destroyed my self esteem.

Now I look back at pics of my quite skinny self from that time and realize how good I looked. It pisses me off that I took their comments so much to heart, I wish I'd told them they were all full of shit. I'm glad your bf has shown a little remorse over it, but words can't be unsaid. Just DO NOT let it get to you. Anyone, regardles of their weight is beautiful as they are, and you're not even fat. I didn't even look at your pic and I don't need to. Health is one thing....yeah go to the gym to be healthy and stuff but not over body image.

[steviej]

Nothing wrong with going to the gym to adjust your body image.

[bulrush]

2011 statistics show 70% of Americans are overweight or obese. OP, you are in the upper 30%. What's wrong with that? You should feel proud of yourself.

[HeartIsAching]

2011 statistics show 70% of Americans are overweight or obese. OP, you are in the upper 30%. What's wrong with that? You should feel proud of yourself.

Those statistics are skewed. BMI got adjusted a few years ago specifically to induce the scare tactics that are being used today. By the current standards, when I graduated from Basic Training my BMI was BARELY below what they're calling overweight now. If you knew me then, you'd know just how hilarious that is.

Nowadays I could stand to lose 10-15 more lbs. (40 lbs. lighter than I was 3 1/2 years ago), and I'm working on it, but those charts are total horse-hockey.