went out with another guy -

**xdelilah** · 13-11-12, 02:28 AM

Originally Posted by surfhb

Ok I see...regardless, that's Irrelevant then at this point. The fact remains he's nOT interested in dating you. You decided to move on then created a shite storm with some childish behavior. Leave him be and move on with your life.

Yeah, but he gets pissed if I mention to date other guys and says "he wanted us to be good" but won't commit back to being together. So I'm the childish one?
I don't understand.

**surfhb** · 13-11-12, 02:36 AM

You're both acting like fools. He plays mind games and you like to shove things down his throat thinking it make him want you. Just let it go and date someone who respects you.

This should be the end of the discussion. He's not interested in dating you anymore and you have relized he plays mind games. Just stop this cycle already and listen to the advise given to you in therapy.

**VincenzoG91** · 13-11-12, 02:51 AM

Originally Posted by xdelilah

Um, that's an insult. I find that rude and immature to reply to a post like this when I was asking for advice. If you don't have anything nice to say, why would you say anything at all?

That wasn't an insult.

An insult would be me telling you that you're an a-hole for sending your ex a picture of you with another guy. Why not just kick your ex in the nuts and get it over with? You two continue to interact in toxic ways when you should just stop talking to one another. And I think it was unprofessional and irresponsible for your therapist to recommend that you start dating again when you clearly have some serious unresolved issues. It isn't fair for innocent guys to deal with your crap until you grow the hell up.

**xdelilah** · 13-11-12, 03:11 AM

Originally Posted by VincenzoG91

That wasn't an insult.

An insult would be me telling you that you're an a-hole for sending your ex a picture of you with another guy. Why not just kick your ex in the nuts and get it over with? You two continue to interact in toxic ways when you should just stop talking to one another. And I think it was unprofessional and irresponsible for your therapist to recommend that you start dating again when you clearly have some serious unresolved issues. It isn't fair for innocent guys to deal with your crap until you grow the hell up.

Wow, so I need to grow the hell up? Um HELLO...he is the one playing mind games with me. Isn't that pretty immature? He is no way innocent, so don't be sticking up for him. Your post is biased.

**surfhb** · 13-11-12, 03:17 AM

Originally Posted by xdelilah

Wow, so I need to grow the hell up? Um HELLO...he is the one playing mind games with me. Isn't that pretty immature? He is no way innocent, so don't be sticking up for him. Your post is biased.

You both need to grow up. You don't see how sending a pic of you on a date to an ex bf is immature? Really?

Could you please just drop this already..... The discussion is over I would think

**xdelilah** · 13-11-12, 03:27 AM

Originally Posted by surfhb

You both need to grow up. You don't see how sending a pic of you on a date to an ex bf is immature? Really?

Could you please just drop this already..... The discussion is over I would think

Yeah it may be childish, but its proving a point. Tired of people sticking up for the guy saying he isn't immature.

**Boisdevie** · 13-11-12, 03:32 AM

Originally Posted by xdelilah

Yeah it may be childish, but its proving a point.

The only point your proving is that you're as much of a dipshit as he is. A grown up person would simply ignore the tosser but you just want to stick it to him don't you?

**BackUpOrGetStng** · 13-11-12, 03:32 AM

Delilah, you are a ****ing idiot. You are a game playing bitch, as much as your ex is a dickhead. Tell him you can't be friends and start moving on.

I hope you walk into a contaminated, radiation zone and are rendered sterile. Eat glass.

**searock** · 13-11-12, 04:10 AM

Originally Posted by xdelilah

Um HELLO...he is the one playing mind games with me. Isn't that pretty immature? He is no way innocent

Your ex boyfriend may not be innocent, but the guy you had a date with is (in this situation). I think your therapist meant for you to start dating other people NOT to make your ex jealous, but to start moving on. Moving on is what you should be doing.

**basilandthyme** · 13-11-12, 04:45 AM

Originally Posted by searock

Your ex boyfriend may not be innocent, but the guy you had a date with is (in this situation). I think your therapist meant for you to start dating other people NOT to make your ex jealous, but to start moving on. Moving on is what you should be doing.

Searock is right on the money. I also believe your therapist was encouraging you to move on from this guy by starting to see others. But I'd be highly surprised if the therapist suggested you send a photo of your date to your boyfriend (who really isn't a boyfriend if he won't commit). That's just game playing and makes you no better than your boyfriend.

Having said that, I don't agree with the therapist's approach. What he's encouraged you to do not only weaves a more entangled web, but you're also using the guy you dated just to make your boyfriend jealous. How would you feel if some guy dated you just to make a girl jealous?? I think it would be pretty awful to be used like this.

I think the therapist would have been far better exploring with you why you'd wait around for someone who's clearly not interested in commiting to you. To explore why you'd settle for second best. In short, he should have been helping you move on from this so-called relationship.

**dickriculous** · 13-11-12, 05:34 AM

Originally Posted by Delila

Yeah, but he gets pissed if I mention to date other guys and says "he wanted us to be good" but won't commit back to being together. So I'm the childish one?
I don't understand.

Why does it bother you so much that we're not blaming your ex? Are you here for advice or are you here hoping that everyone will pander to your tragic victim syndrome by agreeing with you about how much of a jerk he is?

The truth is you played a bad hand trying to make your ex jealous by sending him that pic, you weren't even trying to be subtle. I mean, you made it as obvious as humanly possible that you are trying to manipulate him, and you are reaping what you've sown for it and instead of owning up to that fact here you are trying to paint a picture of yourself as some victim. Everyone sees right through it, that's why people are responding so negatively to you.

**tainted.doll** · 13-11-12, 06:59 AM

All that you going out and sending the picture of that other guy really did was make your ex not want to be with you anymore. Which if that's what you wanted, that's perfect. I'm confused about what you were hoping to gain from this situation. Did you want your ex-boyfriend to want to commit to you and to be in a relationship with you? Or were you trying to get him to leave you alone?

I don't think any man would be happy with seeing their love interest with another man and it's kind of obnoxious to send a picture like that.. but if you're trying to be with him but with him less controlling I have no idea how you'd even go about that but I don't think your therapist has the correct option. I think it's your ex-boyfriend who'd need therapy for that..

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