I got called ex's name during sex!

[Illusional]

james... well what i can say that already hasn't been said. you will have to realize that she just got out of a long relationship and obviously she was in love with her ex and vice versa. maybe something that you shoud've thought about before sticking your dick into her was the fact that it does time take to get over someone and frankly one month won't cut it, i don't care on how bad of terms it ended. i'm sorta in the same boat as you so PM me if you wanna talk and if you feel that you can relate to this subject better. however overall, i guess that all i can tell you is that you should feel lucky that you're with this girl. i know that it's hard, but not to feel insecure. she might go back to him, but that is the chance that you take when you play this game called love.

raverboy

[LightOn]

I was having sex with my girlfriend the other day and she was calling my name out and in the middle of it but then she let her ex's name slip in! I jumped off right away and just sat there in a daze. I then got a shower and left her apartment after telling her I needed some time to think. When I came back later that day we sat down to talk about it. She was crying and said that she wasnt and doesnt think about him during sex, let alone anyone but me. She said that she doesnt have feelings for him anymore, and is only attached to me emotionally, romatically, and physically. She also said that it was the worst thing that she has ever done, and to please forgive her. She was with this guy for 2.5 years, and has been broke up for 3 months, we have been together (having sex) for 2 months. She also was saying that she has never been treated as well as I treat her, and that she hasnt liked anyone as much as me in such a short amount of time. I want to believe her, but this was a big bump in the road, one that I am trying to get over and hope I will. However, it makes me sick to my stomach when I think about it and I dont want to touch her. Does anyone have any advice on what to do, or if it has happened to you personally????? HELP!!

Pure accident, like mentioned earlier she was with him for that amount of time...it's gonna happen...heck it might happen again.

Instead of forgiving her ask her to forgive you.

[Apache]

Well after 2.5 years of being with him I'm sure she said this more out of force of habit than anything else. So don't take it so badly.

Don't let such a silly thing destroy what could be a wonderful relationship.
She felt bad, now do the right thing and tell her how much you care about
her, and forgive her. And if you can't, then let her go now, because this will
come up again each time you two have a disagreement.

[updraft]

it makes me sick to my stomach when I think about it and I dont want to touch her. Does anyone have any advice on what to do, or if it has happened to you personally????? HELP!!

Hey give the poor girl a break will ya!!! She admitted to you you are her world not him, she apologized and if this is the worst to ever happen to you then you're doin ok.

BTW I actually had to stop myself from calling my current bf my ex-hub's name a few times...

The thing is, if she was with someone for an extended period of time before you and during that time called her former bf by his name let's say 1000+times, its likely she will slip with that name in a new relationship....doesnt mean there is still an attachment to the person....its more like a bad habit...slip of the tongue so to speak..

.....it happens and so does shit....forgive her and move forward.

[misombra]

if a man called me his ex's name i'd be bothered. in a moment where i want to feel like i'm "the only one" i would hate to be called another name other than my own. my panties would be coming right back up.

[Ellynn]

Understandable that you would feel offended... I would be too.. So I can understand how you feel......OUCH....!!

That is why I think its best to stick to NOT saying actual names during sex....

[misombra]

i never thought to call a man by his name during sex. it's an opportunity to call him other dirty things.

[Ellynn]

i never thought to call a man by his name during sex. it's an opportunity to call him other dirty things.

LOL...exactly. Thats like the only time you can call him your biatch and get away with it without him all feeling offended.....hehe..

[misombra]

lol HAAAAAAAAAAAAAARDER BIIIIIIIIIIIIIIAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACH!

[misombra]

...sounds better than, "oh yes michael, harder please..."

[Only-virgins]

lol crazy misombra!

[whaywardj]

Excuse me while I adjust my underwear. Gettin' a little tight.

[Tone]

misombra what if I said your name with another woman...

[misombra]

well that's okay.

[blue]

i called one of my exes my other exes name before, and well it sucked but it just came out it was weird i felt so horrible and he was really upset and i had to reasure him alot but it was and accident. So now i dont say any names in bed at all except for kum kwat and shit like that.