I feel guilty did I almost cheat?

[searock]

Duh, that's why I'm still in love with my boyfriend after 4 years. Love doesn't "wear off". Love also doesn't imply that you can't possibly be attracted to anyone else, that's just insane and blatantly false.

I ask again: how old are you and how many serious relationships have you been in?

[michelle23]

I am in love- I'm with my partner a long time, love everything about him, want to marry him, have kids, etc. I enjoy his company, he makes me laugh, he is my best friend and my lover, if he wasn't beside me in bed for one night-Id miss him like crazy and would not sleep. I feel like ringing him when were apart just to say hi, I like doing little things for him to surprise him or just text him a joke to make him laugh. I still flirt with him all the time and that chemistry and spark grows stronger all the time. We rarely ever argue except when I'm drunk lol-I tend to be a bit of a drama queen. I put him first no matter what though and want to share my life with him.

Your saying I don't love him because every now and again I've thought someone else is good looking? lol-I'd even say that to him about one of his friends whose always being messed around by women- for example; Id say "hes a good looking bloke and he has a great personality-he can do better than her" and my bf would agree with me.

Hes often said things to me like "she looks great for her age doesn't she"? And id say "ya I hope I look that good in 20 years time" haha

Or hes often said things like "her boyfriend is a moron-treats her like crap, don't know why she puts up with it" and wed both agree that shes stunning and can do way better.

We trust each other and I don't feel threatened by other women-he doesn't feel threatened by other men so we can say these things ^^^ to each other without getting all paranoid or jealous.

I ask his opinion on lots of things including; "shes a very pretty girl isn't she" from time to time and he'd agree. There is nothing wrong with complimenting others and noticing their natural beauty.

On the other hand if someone had an awful personality but was highly attractive-that would make me think they are an ugly person.. As long as you can see past the beauty to the person-that is what counts.

[toknow]

It's funny, you didn't describe anything that would distinguish him from a friend. If you didn't write that you were talking about your boyfriend, one could think you are talking about a good friend.

[searock]

It's funny, you didn't describe anything that would distinguish him from a friend. If you didn't write that you were talking about your boyfriend, one could think you are talking about a good friend.

So you want to marry and have kids with your good friends? You wouldn't be able to sleep if your good friend wasn't in bed with you? Your good friend is your lover? You flirt with your good friends?

It's also funny how you keep evading my questions.

How old are you? How many serious relationships have you been in? I'll add: how long did those relationships last?

[michelle23]

It's funny, you didn't describe anything that would distinguish him from a friend. If you didn't write that you were talking about your boyfriend, one could think you are talking about a good friend.

lol what are you talking about?? He is my BEST FRIEND and the BEST LOVER ever

[mo487]

Dude, every guy goes through this. Its natural. There are plenty of times when women leave an opening for you to flirt and sometimes I want to take them. But if you made the conscious decision to not and be faithful to your woman then you are a stand up guy who deserves to be applauded

[toknow]

Good friends have married and have had kids. Friends have felt that way about their friend. Friends have flirted before. What's so unusual about all that.

I think my age is irrelevant here. I am younger than the guy on the picture you posted, but I can assure you I have had good amount of experience in relationships and women.

[searock]

Good friends have married and have had kids. Friends have felt that way about their friend. Friends have flirted before.

In the context you used the word in (i.e. in juxtaposition with "person you are in love with"), good friends don't do any of those things. Pure and simple friendship is based on the fundamental pillar that there be absolutely no sexual attraction. If you're sexually attracted to someone, you automatically can't be close friends with that person.

Then of course, your partner should also be your best friend, it's the only exception to the rule.

Your age isn't irrelevant: you sound like you're in your teens. Most importantly, how many serious relationships have you been in, and how long did they last?

[toknow]

LOL...You have no conception of age apparently. My words speak for themselves. You can't attach age to truth. All I can do is feel sorry for you as it looks you have never experienced love, and most likely never will.

But, I do understand where you are coming from. You want to believe you have love, and even live a lie just because it has to be beautiful. You don't want to miss out, but you are, yet you perpetuate that lie with your words.

[searock]

You would answer my very simple questions if you had been in at least one long-lasting serious relationship.

Being as it is: you must be under 25, never been in a serious long-term relationship, been in limerence at least once. Your posts remind me of myself 10 years ago, when I was 13.

[toknow]

LOL...You are nothing like me, I can assure you.

[searock]

Yup, I've grown up in 10 years :-).

Why don't you answer, toknow? What are you hiding?

[toknow]

I've answered what's relevant, and even irrelevant. I told you I have all the experience necessary to know, whether you believe me or not it doesn't matter because the truth is the truth, and it's not going to change. If you don't trust me, then why would you trust me if I answer your questions directly. I'm older than you and I don't think you've ever been like me even when you were younger. It is hard to explain true love to someone has no notion of it. What you call love is not what you think.

[searock]

You're older than me?? You have serious issues then .

I don't trust your judgement, that's why I want direct answers. If you really had "all the experience necessary to know", you wouldn't be saying the stuff you say. Only an inexperienced person would say that you can't be attracted to other people when you're in love with someone. Whatever, I don't really care.

[michelle23]

Can you explain what love is then toknow? Please enlighten me since you think my bf is just a "good friend" to me. What am I missing out on?