Saw my ex after being dumped 4 months ago
Yesterday was a big day for me. I wanted to talk to the friend of the ex but the phone was still not working, so I called the ex and talked to her after almost four months. We had a nice talk – she asked me about her friend, who I have been seeing for a couple months, and why I wanted my space. I explained it to her and then I asked her about her new boyfriend. She then asked to meet me for a coffee, so we ended up spending a lot of the day together.
She really wants me and her friend to be together. She told me that the friend was just changing phone plans so that it should be working soon. I said I would maybe call her in a few days.
I asked the ex about her new boyfriend. I knew he was 42 (now 43), but now I know that his two kids are 7 and 10, that he was married for 15 years and he is a lawyer. By the way I'm 30 and she's 29. She showed me pictures of the two of them on a weekend skiing vacation. I didn’t say anything but damn it wasn’t easy. It was made easier because he isn’t much to look at, but I guess that’s not what she cares about. He’s definitely not as in good shape and not as good looking as me .She asked me for my opinion of him. I said its just a picture and that I don’t know him, but if she is happy that is all that matters. I was on the brink of saying – “I can’t look at these anymore”. But I stuck it out.
Anyways she said that she finds ‘strength’ in him and that he supports her dreams to work and live here. They have their differences but that she thinks she has found the right man for her. She kept saying to me how she has gained 14 pounds – and it looks like that was over the time she’s been out of my life. Its noticeable, but I still told her though that she hasn’t changed a bit and that she is beautiful. I meant it too.
She commented how I haven’t called her in so long to be friends. She kept prolonging our time together yesterday – the coffee turned into breakfast, then lunch, and then for a walk through the mall and visiting different stores. She even wanted to see me later that night.
I updated her on my situation too - my promotion at work, my mortgage being paid off soon, my plans to invest in more real estate, my dance classes, and yoga. It kind of hurt me how much she wants to see me and her friend together so much, because I guess I still love her and I would take her back. I know its so crazy. I guess she must really like this guy.
As for the friend I think the best thing is for me to tell her that I just want to be friends.
