Ive done something stupid

Those who may have read my previous threads will know what im talking bout but i can start again with something stupid i just did


I had a study session organised with a chic, but she just had to cancel due to her parents staying with her for rest on week.

she didnt organise another one.

at this study session i had planned to ask her out for a few drinks to celebrate her birthday last week.

In my haste, i replied to her sms and pretty much said

" thats ok. I was also gonna see if you wanted to meet up for drinks one night, i owe you some for your birthday. if u'd want to, Let me know and we can organise sumfin."

have i just destroyed any chances with her, im looking at it as looking desperate and pathetic. I never wanted to ask this kinda stuff over a sms, im much better at it face to face, but i was left with no choice

The only mistake I see here is that you wrote "sumfin" instead of "something". Honestly, that would irritate me more than anything else you wrote.

painfulheart-----Why not just pick up the phone and ask her directly?

Id just finished work, and was checking messages as i drove home (11.30 pm) replied whilst driving, so too late to ring

thought if i dont reply or say something itll bug me till morning (no sleep)

I think that if you two like (loved) each other, she won't mind in the slightest if you sounded desperate for her. I mean, won't she appreciate that?

For those interested i got reply back and i guess its on a positive note.

her reply was pretty much

" thats sounds good, we can organise when we get back (to uni in 1 week), might have to be in a while tho cos im not a big drinker and drank a bit on sat, and wont feel like it for a while"

at first i thought it was a polite no, but reading again, it does sound more on positive side

tho in the back of mind i keep thinking (negative as i am) its just a reply thats pushes the 'problem' further down track for her