Girls I need your advice on the matter...
Hi Girls
Right I think your going to love this little episode.
I was on dating site, and in march I got shown a interest by a nice girl. I did reply and nothing. So I signed off. In Aug I got a email from the site so I went back in, but I had to check this girl again she was one that stuck in my mind of over 400 that showed interest.
Now she's Czech I was going there anyway to see friends and as it happend I tried to mail this girl and I had to sign up, I only sign up just to see once more.
POW next day I get a life story via email, the next day, so I logged on and chatted with her, from 8.30pm till 4am. The next day I was in Czech we met up and she said from the very first moment she saw me she knew.
Yes I slept with her that night, and couple of days later.
There was a time when both of us was outside and even the night before, hours between us just dispeared even while sitting outside Tescos for 4 hours.
When I arrived home we chated daily from 4 - 8 hours a day, we wanted it to be, in this time she did send me in the excess of 200 photos of her self to me.
She then arrived in the UK and she would not leave me alone. She got her job in london, we had spoke that she would live there for 6 months then move into my town, as she had a job there it was as if it was all ready.
I could not wait to be honest then, we went camping over a weekend which she really enjoyed so she tells me, don't laugh girls. Then we went out over the course of time and I called her in the evening's I tried to give her space but then she's telling me she missed my texts in the morning.
I was on the phone with her and she asked if I could get her a TV which I thought she was going to pay me at first for I got a 34 inche TV for the appartment. Any I drove through london to pick it up etc, then as we got close she is telling me she can't wait to be with me hold me in bed. So I moved her accross london with all her stuff.
When we got to the new appartment I cooked, and then we slept with each other, I fell asleep as it was 1am and I was up at 5am the night before. Anyway I woke up in the night to try and show her some affection, I was pushed away, and I tried in the morning same and then she stormed out that all I want is one thing, which is not true considing we have not been together every night in this way. I sat down and spoke with her she thought I was going to get up and walk out. But I did not.
Time goes on for a bit and then I gets a email from her saying can I see her as I need to talk to you about some thing, thats the one line I hate I must say. So I go there and collect her from work I cook dinner then she says, I got something to tell you I can't see you any more.
Hmm I thought and why whats the reason, I don't have time, as I have study and your be upset because you can't see me, I said I can see you cook watch TV you can be in the same house can you not, and so we went to bed cuddled up and slept. Next Day I get a email saying I can't see you any more. So I go to see her, as she walked accross the bridge I gave her a hug and helped her with the bags she was carrying. We sat down she said your going to change my mind again, I said no I going to show you something, so I pulled out all the 200 photo's I have massive bundle, she said what are these, these are all the photos you mailed me, I said may be I am not reading this right but I have never had a girl send me so many photo's of herself to me, and I showed her the photos of us on that day when time pasted by, and showed her some of the things she wrote to me, I said what am to believe as everything you wrote has made me to feel the way I feel now, I told her then that I was in love with her. She replied why did you not tell me before. Because I was to scared to. But I know I am in deep because of how I feel now. So we went to bed she cuddled up to me and said I am sorry, I replied don't do it any more hun.
The next day she was going to work then on to Czech for a biopse, anyway she texted me hello darling I have arrived etc, and later in the week she texted me what I was doing, and then 2 days later when she was coming home I SMS her to arrange collection, and she emails me again that she can't see me any more, and not to go to see her etc. I thought OK and what about my stuff that was in the house, am I just to write it off, any way I was replying that I will deal with this when I speak with you in a nice way never argued only talked which was nice. So then I write another long email, and she replied totally different, as I said I want to understand. She replied that she's pregnant by another man, married whom she had been with a couple of times over the last year, and that they have decided to give it a try and he has told his wife. Then she SMS's me that she was 13 weeks on the 31/10/06. Now please forgive girls I a guy here and I have female friends that have fell pregnant when the not ment to. So if I am correct that this goes back to the 1st Aug she could bleed up to day 7 only giving from 8 -19 when it happened. As I was with her on 20-22 as sperm can live up to max 7 days this would give me a 33% chance of that month in coverage, if you get my meaning.
So I drove over to see her I was not angry hurt more than anything and wanting the information how where and why. As I don't want to think that I may be the father, if she goes back. She came over and sat in the car she was shaking, well her hand where not quite sure cold or fear to be honest so I started the car to warm her up. I tried to ask her about the baby she says it's 100% not mine, and said that she was with him 3 weeks before me, so may be that's where she gets the 13 weeks from, I did ask if she had a scan, and then stormed out of the car. Now I will add that when all the emails was coming through I felt used, as I had done nothing for it to happen and so I left a voice mail for her indicating that's fine I collect my stuff and you can pay me what you owe me, which I think is fair. I don't know what she was thinking at the time I just do all of the things for fun, etc. So she stormed out after I ask about the scan. Then she got some of my things not all, as even the sim's mine LOL, so she brought some things down and I asked her can you tell me why you think I should pay please, she did not really reply to that, only saying that I could sell it and get my money back, but then I did reply but it's not my problem because you just dumped me, so why should I do anything now. So I mentioned are you going to pay the money. She replied I don't have the money broke down and cried saying I can't help I fell pregnant. As she run upstairs. I did follow and gentle tapped as when I saw her cry it hurt me. She also mentioned please don't spoil the nice thing we have between us.
Now you may think I am totally wrong here, and that may be said ok yeah see ya, now that's some whom does not care. And as she has not really put any investment money wise it does not matter, however I have and you do tend to get tired of paying out all the time. If there's say a vaild reason I can accept you know and there was no reason why we could not have stayed friends at least concidering what I have done.
Now she does seem to be having major mood swings and it was only a couple of weeks back when we was in eastbourne that she felt sick, and need to wee alot. On the 19th she went to clinic I thought it was for this other thing she was having done. It's some medical centre not a doctors.
Now my heads in a real mess. But this is the thing if she had told me in the beginging that she was preganant I would have told her what ever the outcome I will be there for you, and if it some elses I will rasie it as my own, now it takes a strong person to say that male or female. But I really love her, but I also don't wanna be taken for a mug either and that's the problem now.
I wrote to her explaining that this man cheated on his wife so he could do the same to her, and its not a relationship you had but a affair, and the other thing is he may not want to be with you then your a single mother. Now I would like to think that we get on and that she would have a better chance with me if she decided to accept me in that way.
So I really don't know, now.......
Girls what you think, is this one big game, of mind game.
Or is it for real since i don't think you would like to be in the position of not knowing that the baby is not yours.
I did think to send her some flowers then, meet up with her in the hope to talk about it again, and then ask if she would do a preganacy test, which is not hard, then it would make things a little easier in my head, in short she not taking me for a mug and it's error that's happened, if you see my point.
Well I hope you have enjoyed the reading, please let me know what you think.
Many thanks Wayne
Maybe you right.. or wrong
I am not sure, it could be that shes tore, as she did not want things between us to go wrong.
Here is the email she sent
"Ok Wayn, I tell you the true, so you can understand whats going on and you will understand my situation. I dont want you to think that you are the reason we split up. I thought all this my new situation is nothing to do with you, so I wanted to keep you out of it. But as I see, that would be better to tell you. Noone knows, just my mum and him.
Im pregnant with someone else, who I did see few times last year. He is not single, so I did not take it seriously. I also did not want to break his family, so I wanted to find someone to be with and build my life with someone else.
All that happened so quickly and it did shock me. Im sure now for 100 percent. This thing changes everything. Whole my life is going to turn around. I did see him and talked it all through. We decided to try to be together. He did tell his wife and they breaking up. That was just question of time, theirs relationship did not work for few years anyway. He wants to be with me and I want to be with him, he is going to be father of my child and thats going to be for the rest of my life, so I think this decision is right. Im not telling you all this because I want to share it with someone, but because I dont want you to be feeling that you did something or because Im lost in my life. Im not, I was just confused what to do and what to say, and if to keep the baby, if to get together with him, move back to czech and all the rest. But Im old and need to keep it, and Im looking forward to it now. I hope you will try to understand me.
Of course you will get your belongings back. Would be ok for you to meet up on Saturday? M"
