Can't move on, Please HELP ME!
Hi there,
I've got this 'problem', I say it's a problem because it's become that I can't escape this situation for 14 years.
I meet this girl at college in 1994. We dated for a year, and she was pretty perfect in my eyes. 1995 was a bad year, and we kept breaking up/getting back together; really somehow the relationship suddenley went wrong.
After one last get together in Autumn 1995, she walked off and we never saw each other until 1999.
Between 1995-1999, I met another girl and we got married in 1998. I didnt thing about my ex so much. In 1999 I bumped into my ex-girlfriend (called her Wendy-Ann) and feelings hit me again. After that I talk to her a few times, but she told me to leave her alone so I did.
Between 1999-2005, I thought about her on and off more than I should have. I mean I had a few ex-girlfriend before her, but I never thought about them.
In mid-2005 I had a break down at work and was out of work for a while. A friend of mine who knew Wendy-Ann, met me and mentioned her name. Now between 1999 - 2005 he would mention her name everytime I met him, and I'd say to him don't tell me about her I dont want to know.
But in mid-2005 I did. Well a month later and I was talking to Wendy-ann. It was strange because we'd talk but if I mentioned our past relationship in 1994-1995 she would ignore it.
We even went to a film and dinner, and also I cook her a meal. Now I was married still, so you can see this wasn't looking good.
After the meal, I kinda realised that she wasn't the girl I loved in 1994. I mean she looked the same, but she was somehow darker and more abrupt. TO be honest I though she was playing a game with me. So afterwards I tried to not contact her for a long time. Mid 2006 she phoned me, but I didn't answer the call.
End 2006 I was on a low edge, and was still thinking about her alot. I dont know what came over me, but I phoned her, and told her I was angry with her, and what happened in 1995 and the break. I then put the phone down.
A few weeks later I was apologetic, but she didn't want to know me.
February 2007 she told me she never want to speak to me again. Since Feb 2007 I've tried a few things to get her to speak to me, including sending her flowers twice in a day.
Now what bothers me and Im sure you too, was that in 2006 I realised that she was different so I said in my mind things have changed moved on. But after a few months I still craved for her - well moreso the Wendy-ann of 1994.
I been emailing her often and also texting her for over a year, but no replies. My friend who one kept mentioning her, now doesn't talk to me either.
This has become a problem. My life hasn't moved on since I met her again in 2005, and has affected my job and wellbeing.
Any help or advice please?
