my ex boyfriend is confusing me and he has a new girlfriend
hey I am a seventeen year old girl. I had this ex boyfriend for around a year. we were deeply in love, and nothing mattered more than each other in our eyes. he did lots of stuff for me, like sendin me home nearly everyday after my school even though he live hours away from my home. I am his first girlfriend too. he was real cute and nice, shy etc. everyone said we were compatible. we were both very loyal and never flirted with anyone else during our r/s. we even gave our virginity to each other. he's 3 years older than me. My ex boyfriend and I broke up around mid October last year.
2 weeks before we broke up, he suddenly told me that he loved me no more and that he hates me. I was shocked and hurt to the max before the day before we still met up and everything was alright. There were still the hugs, kisses and sweet nothings. he even sang to me. and it was also only recent that he told me his love for me will never end. so when he told me he loved me no more, and wanted to break up, i was shocked and could not accept it. in the end after much pleas he gave me another chance. but he never treated me nicely anymore. however there was once a week before the breakup, I went to his house to spend some time together for a while. he was very nice to me and even initiated hugs etc. later on we even made out.
after that day he went overseas for some school trip which lasted for 5 days. 1 day after he came back, I asked to meet up and he refused, and insisted that he doesnt want to see me forever and wanted to break up. again. this time i totally gave up and agreed. so the next day we met up for the last time, before breaking up. i was all set and bracing myself for the break already, however his behaviour totally stunned me because i thought he didn't love me anymore. he cried like hell during that meet up, and hugged me etc. he even requested to meet up once in a while after our break up. he sort of begged me, and even cried more than me! he told me he still loved me actually.
after the breakup, I was completely crushed. he was too. However I did not dare to contact him, and waited for him to contact me first instead. he contacted me on a daily basis. and told me he still loved me, just that he thinks he's not suitable to be in a relationship for now. so i respected his decision. he even told me he wants to be my best friend because he worries about me etc. I felt super touched and loved him even more.
however a few days later, he suddenly stopped contacting me. and when I contacted him, he was either very cold or completely ignored me. he even said he hates me and that he regretted knowing me. So i got desperate and upset, started pestering for an answer. things got even worse.
one month later, he suddenly messaged me and told me he wanted me to spend his birthday together with him which is in december. i was elated and rushed off to plan everything, and didn't dare to contact him for fear of him changing his mind.
a while later, i found out he's been messaging a girl everyday. and people were all teasing him about it on facebook. but it did not bother me that much, so i asked him if he wanted to catch a movie on his birthday too. that's when he told me he did not want to see me at all! i was so hurt and upset. he even claimed i was delusional and imagined him asking me out on his birthday. later on he messaged me and apologised and said he will never fall in love again for breaking my heart. i was in pieces.
so i decided to ask him about that girl, and it turned out that they have been hitting the gym and stuff together a week after me and him just broke up. he told me there's nothing going on between them, and this time i seriously doubt it. and my instincts were right. around beginning of december, he told me that that girl likes him, but he doesnt return her her feelings. BUT ON THE NEXT DAY HE SUDDENLY TOLD ME HE LIKES HER TOO AND CAN'T WAIT TO START A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER!!! it was only a matter of him asking her in life face to face. i was crushed and confused.
anyway it turned out that a guy has liked me for 2 years alr, so i told my ex about it. he got scarily jealous and even scolded me, saying that all my words about loving him forever was bullshit! i got angry. hey i thought he already like his new girl, why should he mind! he even assumed that i got a new boyfriend.
he even came to the extent of asking me how to ask her to be his boyfriend... i was angry and sad, hated and loved him. how could he do that to me after so many promises to take care of me after the break up. they were officially together, after just 2 months since we broke up. but i found it odd that he doesnt seem that happy as compared to when me and him first got together.
every single time they had trouble, he would turn to me and rant to me and stuff. i spent many nights staying up to comfort me. he even told me he'd rather be with me. however, when they were fine, he would keep telling me he held her hands and she's very cute etc. who in the right mind would tell that to his ex?!
anyway the girl dumped him after lesser than 5 days, as she claimed he did not give him space. she requested for a patch up a few hours later. on the 10th day, she broke up with him again due to personality differences.a day later, she requested for a patch up again. then around the 14th day, she broke up with him again cause she found out that he had lost his virginity to me.
then she spoke to me and told me he was a jerk, because he actually repeatedly asked her out since august when i was still together with him. she even apologised and claimed she didn't know and went out with him, and even convinced me to slap him after badmouthing him. i was confused and kept asking her to reconfirm if it was august or what. she reassured me it was in august. so i confronted him. he denied everything, while made me angrier, so i told her about it. her reply shocked me. she said something like this, "omg I m so sorry! i went to check my calendar. it's in october not august. > <" i was quite guilty for accusing my ex of 2 timing, and she just told me this, "even if that's the case, he started a r/s with me because he wanted a rebound r/s"
she sabotaged me and turned me against him. then a few days later, she went crying to him and patched up with him again, after ignoring him and brainwashing me for so many days. seems that she told him i want to slap him and stuff. i got upset so i went to tell him everything. and even forwarded him her messages. he just ignored me!
i am confused about everything. help :( how can someone change so fast. like within a month he already start to fall for another girl, despite all the stuff he told me and how much he had loved me!:sad2:
