Sex deprivation after a breakup?
Okay, so here's the story in brief...
My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up for nearly 6 weeks now. A few weeks after my girlfriend of 19 months and I broke up (I'm 19, she's 17), she started to like another guy, and started making out with him. We last talked on Monday, and she knows I still love her, but that I'm going to get over her as we cut communication for a while. She said on Monday that she has a feeling that she is going to want to get back together with me again in a few months (maybe sooner) and that this was just a phase for her, but obviously, I'm not expected to wait around for her to come back while she's having fun with another guy. Here's the problem: we were eachothers' firsts, and neither of us have been with anyone else. I told her that if she expects to get back together in a few months, she had better not do anything more than make out with the other guy. She was like "wtf, we're not even together anymore," to which I responded, "Yeah, but if you think I'm going to want to get back together with a girl when I just went through hell getting over her while she was playing with another guy's d**k, think again," to which she responded, "good point." She also said with complete honesty that the guy she likes right now is completely temporary.
So, the verdict was that she would do as she pleases in the coming months, while acknowledging that if she went to third base or beyond with another guy, we would not have a very good shot at getting back together. The dilemma is this: I'm obviously not going to wait for her, since she broke up with me and she's over me. I'm feeling pretty sex deprived after going from sex multiple times a week to 2 months of no sex. But, understandably, I don't think she'd be very happy with me a few months from now if she had saved herself for me and I had gone out and messed around with a girl or two. It's not really fair. But then again, it makes no sense at all for me to wait on her.
So what should I do? We've cut all communication for about 10 more days. I don't think she'll have done anything in that time, nor do I plan to myself. Should I talk to her about it and ask her opinion? Cause here's the thing: a relationship where a person has to take a 3 month break and sleep with another guy before getting back together with her old bf isn't really a relationship at all. The only other alternative I can see is hinting at/suggesting/whatever that we both fufill eachothers needs, but I don't know how that would affect our relationship in the future, and I also don't know if she just wants something new at this point, or what. Anyone have any thoughts on what I/we could do?