Perhaps we should compile some lists of the things we'd like in our next partner? Patti Stanger, who I adore, suggests that everyone figure out their top 5 non-negotiables, and determine from the very first date with any new prospective partner whether he/she fits those criteria. What are your non-negoatiables, and what other things are you looking for in your next boyfriend/girlfriend?
I think it should be a lot clearer for those of us who have recently gone through a breakup. Hindsight is always 20/20.
