on a more positive note

[tremolo]

Perhaps we should compile some lists of the things we'd like in our next partner? Patti Stanger, who I adore, suggests that everyone figure out their top 5 non-negotiables, and determine from the very first date with any new prospective partner whether he/she fits those criteria. What are your non-negoatiables, and what other things are you looking for in your next boyfriend/girlfriend?

I think it should be a lot clearer for those of us who have recently gone through a breakup. Hindsight is always 20/20.

[DarkHelmet82]

i want want my ex had.. but without being a psycho.. lol

[qwerty123456]

- Someone who loses the atitude and down to earth
- College educated (does not neccessarily have to be in a high flying job, such someone I can have a decent conversation with)
- Great sense of humour
- Up for doing out of the ordinary things and thinking outside the box.
- Someone who is willing to put as much effort into the relationship as I am

[Boisdevie]

1. Nice tits
2. Nice tits
3. Nice tits
4. Nice tits
5. Nice arse

[tremolo]

1. Nice tits
2. Nice tits
3. Nice tits
4. Nice tits
5. Nice arse

Considering the source, this does not surprise me

[Yet another guy]

-likes me
-relatively sane
-finds me attractive

That's probably too much to ask already so I'll leave it at that.

[Horseyguy]

1. Good sense of humour
2. Is happy with who they are
3. Emotionally mature and available
4. Open and honest
5. Is a good communicator

[Horseyguy]

6. Don't drink or if they do they don't go spastic when they do
7. Is over their ex

[Toddstar]

Has a job.
Drinks a little.
Long hair.
Has own car.
Has own bank account.

Yeah. Im not picky anymore.

[Wakeup]

You'd be better off compiling a list of things you'll never accept again which are known as Personal Boundaries such as:

> I'l never allow someone to disrespect me and if they do, I'll let them know that I don't tolerate disrespect and if it happens again, I'l leave them.
> I'll never again ignore red flag behaviour in fear. Fear that if I unfurl the truth he/she will not be the person I've put them on the pedestal to be.
> I will never be afraid to have meaningful conversations with him/her when I feel there is a problem in the relationship. I'll not fear the truth because I need to know the trugh before I fall in love not after I have and am reluctant to leave.
> I will respect myself enough to distance myself from people who do not show in actions that they like me as I like them. I will do this before I am obsessed and clingy.
> I will know without a doubt that I am of enough self-worth that I do not need to stay with someone who has proved to me more than one time that they do not respect or value me.

Theres a few. If you stick to those personal boundaries you will never find yourself wishing to be with someone or wanting to stay with someone who didn't value you.

If you don't have personal boundaries in place then even if you meet someone with all the great physical characteristic that you've always dreamed of they still may be a person that doesn't value you the way two people in mutual love value one another.

[motleylou]

1.) Able to be goofy and not take themselves too serious,but can also have a serious conversation when needed
2.) an 8 out of 10 on the look meter
3.)open
4.)doesn't cheat or have any contact with ex
5.)doesn't quit on a relationship at the first sign of distress

[that one guy]

1. Be funny, spontaneous and light-hearted but still be serious, calm and mature if the time calls for it.
2. Communicates if there are any problems.
3. You are happy with yourself and I find you attractive.
4. Can enjoy a night in watching movies/spending time with each other as equal as going out to a club/bar or restaurant.
5. Appreciates everything I strive to do to make sure they are happy.