He broke up with me but keeps contacting me. Help??
Hi guys,
A few months back, my boyfriend ended our year-long relationship because he was moving abroad to study for a few months. I was devastated as I loved him very much. I know the real reason for it is that he wanted to go away and not feel guilty about me. For the past few months I've still spoken to him and he's always still told me he loves me and misses me, but recently I've found this too much to handle as I know he has no intention of getting back with me. I told him this and asked him to stop as I don't feel it's fair. He said 'But I do still love you', to which I replied 'If you really loved me and wanted me, you wouldn't have broken it off.'
However, he can't accept this. I asked him to leave me alone so as I can move on, but he doesn't want me to. He insists we have a future together, but I'm not prepared to wait around for someone who won't give me their all here and now, despite the circumstances. I feel that responding to him is giving him what he wants and allowing him to have his cake and eat it too, so to speak. He has the freedom and still has me at the same time - it's just not fair.
I feel guilty everytime I don't answer him, as he still keeps messaging me, even though I know I shouldn't. I haven't replied for a few days, but it's hard. I just think it's time to start giving some consideration to my own feelings for a change, but he just can't let me move on. I think he finds it hard to not have contact with me, as I was always a huge source of emotional support for him. He feels lonely without me. Is he just being selfish? I just don't want to feel hurt and taken for granted anymore.
Any advice, please?!
X
