NEED HELP Getting Back With Ex And How To Approach NO Contact Rule
Hello all.
This is my first serious relationship so I'm a bit devastated. It only lasted for about 5 months but during that time I really enjoyed spending time together with my ex girlfriend.
Her reason for dumping me was that there's not enough chemistry or that chemistry had lost along the way. Then she took common approach of saying something similar to "It's not you, it's me" and "I really wanted this to work so badly" or "I hope I find someone who's as kind and caring as you" Then of course if you want to be friend thing.
I've had time to reflect on what went wrong between us. I felt like I did not have a chance to explain myself when we broke up (I thought it wouldn't matter at the time). Here's my thought. I was being sick back to back and me not being myself at that time, I left her feeling distant. Plus, my several business trips for work made us even further apart. In the last month and a 1/2, I traveled 3 times, I was sick 2 times in a middle and after that. I think that's where the chemistry got lost. We NEVER argued during this 5 months, we negotiated certain things and sometimes even compromised.
I think she still has a feeling for me. Or maybe she wants to feel less guilt and avoid hurting my feelings. I still want to get back with her at some point. My questions are...
1. I keep hearing these 1 month of NO CONTACT rule to give the girl time and make her miss you. Is there such thing as "1 month"? What about 2 weeks, 3 weeks? If I want to reignite the spark, I don't want that to disappear if I wait longer.
2. Lets say you wait a month (less or more) with NO CONTACT, is it okay for me to initiate contact (email, text) or should I wait for her to contact?
3. Do you think I still have a chance of getting her back?
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.