Do you see a future in my relationship?
Hi, I have 22 years girlfriend, i'm in a relationship that constantly have arguments and nonstop problems. my girlfriend and i stays far from each other, she's staying with her aunt & i am working in the other city, 100km apart. Our relationship is two years old, we never stayed together, just phone calls and visit, sometimes after two to three months, she doesn't wanna come stay with me, always have different excuses, each time i explain to her that, i wanna marry her but i'm worried that we never spent even 1 month together & that doesn't mean i know you at all, because i know you on the phone better than you in person, she then tells me it's hurting to hear that each time she visits me, it was not counting for anything.
1. Am i wrong to say i still don't know her, even after two years in a relationship for the fact that we see each other after long time, every two to three month and just one day, where she even visits me from around 13H00 and at around 17H00 same day she goes back?
2. I find it hard to trust her at all,especially that she once cheated me with other man for a year with me not being aware of it, am i wrong to fail to forgive her as much as i wanted to?
3. How do i start building trust between us and making sure that our relationship becomes strong? especially now that she refuses to come stay with me to help me re-new our relationship?
4. Is it normal for a girl to love her friends more than her own boyfriend? even if she see that, this is causing conflicts among us? sometimes she will rather breakup with me than cutting her friends that are destroying our relationship, she is addicted to whatz up and mxit, never want me to know who she is always talking to.
5. Always we fight about having a baby, she just can't directly face me and say i don't want to, she will give an excuse that she's still at school (doing nursing at college) and will promise that when her course ends we will try for the baby, but once that time comes, she always have other reasons to make sure it never happen.
6. I'm very much committed to her, she is my first girlfriend, i got into this relationship in 2010 November, i was 24 years at the time.
7. Six months after we met, we use to talk at night from 00:00 with the Vodacom night shifts, she used to make sure she never sleeps until she talks to me, but the past 18 months have been different, she puts her phone silence each time she goes to sleep to make sure i do not bother her with phone calls, sometimes she will just ignore my calls during the day until i sms her and say, "i'm calling you the last time, if you don't answer consider this relationship over, that time for sure, she will answer, it won't ring twice.
8. i'm so confused and don't know what to do. Do you see a future in my relationship? i'm worried because she never admits that there is no future between us, she say she loves me but neither her action or behavior proof that.
Is there anything i'm perhaps missing in my relationship that would definitely turn things around and make me trust her again or am i just wasting my time?
Please help!
