Torn

Hi all,

I am new to this but have nowhere else to turn. I am a mum of 2 and love it more than life itself but I also have a partner who I also love. We don't live together (he is not the childrens father). We have been together 5 years. I have my house (rented) and he has his (owned). He wants me to move in with him (and the kids of course), problem is, I hate where he lives. It is rough, full of not nice people and I once lived near there and hated every minute of it. I am loving where I am now and so are the children.
What do I do? He doesnt want to leave his house as he has no rent/mortgage on it so to be honest, I can see why. I am paying alot of rent but live is better and I can afford it.
Please help. I love this man to pieces but I dont know how I can make him see my reasons. I would love to live with him, just not where he is.

He probably already does see your reasons. Think about it this way: you see his reasons, but his reasons won't change your mind. Therefore, him seeing your reasons probably isn't going to change his mind either.

At present you're in a stalemate because neither is willing to give up what you've got. I guess it comes down to the fact that both of you love where you live more than you love each other. Just something to think about.

Something to think about it right.

Thank you so much