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So little faith on me... Given the opportunity, there's maybe a couple of female friends who I may not turn down, but all the rest of them, which may be around 60 of them, there's no way I would do anything with them.Quote:
Originally Posted by Asip4u [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Wow you have a lot of friends! A few good friends plus my boyfriend is enough for me.
Ftm is bang on the money with what he said. There are female friends i wouldnt do anything with but thats purely because im not attracted to them in anyway. Others i accept that boundry and would rarely push but given the oppertunity i certainly wouldnt hesitate for long. And im also in my 20's.
Oh, good friends I have very little, I'm not sure I can count more than one anymore. But this is a big city and even social awkward people end up meeting people one way or another... now, guys I have less than 15 friends...Quote:
Originally Posted by BubbleFreak [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Likely because they all have boyfriends :) :detectiveQuote:
Originally Posted by the_robot [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
when i was in my twenties....i slept with a lot of men who weren't my friends. friends i wouldn't even consider sleeping with (even though they tried really hard and were really hot) I refused to lose them as friends and thank God i didn't cuz we all are still friends to this day.
A guy can be just friends with you, like if he isn't attracted to you but the friendship has to have been natural, you know, like from the good ol' school days or somebody at work, not some random guy at the cinema who is less interested in the movie he paid for and more so in having a convo with somebody who is working there. Oh he was deffo trying to pull.
I have a lot of male friends who have all at some point expressed an interest in me, thing is they have all started off as friends and shall remain that way, for me attraction is instant, if I like somebody it's all or nothing, I won't settle for being just a friend, not that I have ever had to! I know there are many whom say that friendship is the basis for a strong relationship, the first step, you know, get to know somebody first and what not but I think it's pants - you instantly know who is dating material and who will only ever really just be a friend.
Not all of them, and the ones who do right now I've met when they didn't, I just don't like them enough despite some of them are hot.Quote:
Originally Posted by xxazurexx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm the same. I 'instantly' know who will be going in the friendzone lol. Well I don't even have a 'friendzone' because I don't collect guys as friends.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jas_mine [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
In my current situation I'm friends with an ex and previous I had never ever done friends with exes.
I don't want to be in this friendship, he just won't go away and I feel mean when I ignore him :|
You just can't be friends with someone you are attracted to. If there is any sexual tension, then friendship is affected.
My woman and I met as friends, and we intended to be friends....she even told me. But the attraction was too strong and we could not resist.
So fundamentally we couldn't have been "true buddies" because sexual attraction existed from early on.
If two people find each other sexually unattractive, whether or not they are actually ugly, then they can be platonic friends.
My college roommate was a hot girl with really big boobs. Guys drool over her, but to me she wasn't that good looking. So I was good friends with her literally.
She trusted me tremendously because I was like the only guy who never flirted with her or even saw her as more than friends. 17 years later, we are still good friends :)
Conclusion: You can't be friends with someone you imagine naked and like it. True friendship can exist if you treat each other like siblings. IMHO.