Guilt, snooping

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Originally Posted by Jenswaiting [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ok so you feel guilty. I assume the reason you want to tell her is because you want forgiveness...? Asking for her forgiveness is a selfish act as you are relieving your guilt by telling her. By doing this you would only cause damage. Only you can forgive yourself. You know you did something wrong and that's all that matters. Get a grip and let go of the guilt. You are only hurting yourself. Do you want to hurt her as well?

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i think the reason i want to tell her is i dont like having secrets/hidden issues between us...ive never been one for hiding my bad deeds. even though i learn not to act like this again, i seem to have trouble letting go of the worry (that goes for everything, not just relationships).

im trying to channel this negative energy to something positive, like focusing on all her wonderful qualities, but my mind has a tendency to slip back into this guilt-ridden mindset (i.e. i betrayed her) that i have come to know ever since this happened...