She should tell him that she is unsatisfied with their sex life. If he doesn't care or is unwilling to try and fix it, then it's time to finally end the relationship.
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She should tell him that she is unsatisfied with their sex life. If he doesn't care or is unwilling to try and fix it, then it's time to finally end the relationship.
What your not getting is that communication is very important if you want a relationship to last the test of time where you BOTH work to make each other happy. If one isn't willing to work at it, to try and remedy ANY discord, not just sexual ones then the union is fkd for the long haul.Quote:
Originally Posted by cbad [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
*As for some "deeper issue" right now her beef is the lack of sex. They should address that and if their actual relationship doesn't improve once what's eating her up is fixed, then they can address that as it emerges. If he won't talk about something that eating him up, then she's unable to remedy if she doesn't know whats going on. Same with him. That's when couples councelling is a good idea. A therapist will help them to open up to one another.
Lol, if her only concern is the lack of sex, then that goes back to what I was talking about with maturity. That's my point. You can look at this superficially or you can look at the deeper issues. Your choice. As for communication, like I said, I'm all for it, but if you're not talking about the actual problem then it's pointless.
The actual problem is their lack of a satisfying sex life. The reasons for this problem they can only figure out by talking about it. Sex is a HUGE part of a happy, healthy relationship, so when something's wrong in that department, there's a huge problem with the relationship.
They should talk about it and if he doesn't want to try and fix it, the relationship is over.
This is a defeatest attitude and one from the "throwaway" generation where it's just easier to throw it away and get a new one. That goes from phones that still work to relationships that can be fixed.Quote:
Originally Posted by dickriculous [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
No relationship with improve if there is no effort or communication to remedy. If she loves him, and he still loves her then there is still a chance of getting back on track... but, you have to not have the attitude that a year is past so the relationship is done.
Not really, but that's OK.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This is a defeatest attitude and one from the "throwaway" generation where it's just easier to throw it away and get a new one. That goes from phones that still work to relationships that can be fixed.Quote:
Originally Posted by dickriculous [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
No relationship will improve if there is no effort or communication to remedy. If she loves him, and he still loves her then there is still a chance of getting back on track... but, you have to not have the attitude that a year is past so the relationship is done.
It is the issue at hand.Quote:
Not really, but that's OK.
No, it's not the issue at all. It's a reflection of the underlying problem.
That's why they need to talk about it to find out what the reasons are................... as we've said........................................Quote:
Originally Posted by cbad [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
... lol ... Shall I quote you? "not really, but thats okay." OP has stated what she wants us to address. Get that out of the way and then lets see what happens after that. She can come back in and tell us what else had cropped up once (and if) they remedy the sexual one.Quote:
Originally Posted by cbad [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That's great, but that's only a reflection of her inability to identify the actual issue. And yours.
Oh great, we have a male Michelle amongst us. *sighs*
Anyway, sorry, I didn't know you knew them and had lived with them thereby through witness had sussed out their actual issue.
Nah, Michelle isn't so dim-witted and annoying..! I wonder where she is btw?
differing of opinion I guess... shhhhhh, let a sleeping baby sleep. ;)
Michelle is building career by managing clothing shop now.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]