Carp, I don't think you understand. She knows her man loves her and won't do it again.
I mean how can you argue with that?
Really.
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Carp, I don't think you understand. She knows her man loves her and won't do it again.
I mean how can you argue with that?
Really.
Dump the cheating scum right now!
hmmmm
i would say dump him tbh, i wish i did with my gf when i caught her kissing some other guy when she was drunk... but now i cant trust her... i think i can but deep down i dont, i see it as very conceivable thing to happen..
seriously dump him while your pissed off with him, over time you wont think its as bad, then forgive him, and in turn you will be in my situation, which i assure you, SUCKS.
by the way, does trust ever come back? ..
I might forgive once, only if I knew he was very sincere and only if we were married (but he would be in lots of shit with me for a long time!). But a bf? Hell no. He doesn't respect you enough to resist cheating on you? It's not like he doesn't have time to think "What I'm doing is wrong." He did, but he still went ahead and did it.
This tells me there's trouble in paradise.
thanks everyone for the advice we somehow worked it out. I totally love him so much and i know he love him. I feel he just made a mistake and i know it wont happen again because he feels so bad and guilty and he used to be the type of guy that would say look at that hot girl not anymore he more mature. I am looking forward to my future with him we totally want to get marriage he even change and said he wants kids. We may even elope soon. Thanks all for the advice and support
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Originally Posted by bluesummer
So he proposes marriage and your ok with everything else that happened? Thats not gonna solve your problems girlie..... Marriage is a big step....and if things aren't stable now.....chances are they aren't gonna be stable in a marriage... But then again thats your choice. Hopefully he won't cheat again...... I know I wouldn't want to be one of them wives that "look the other way" while my husband cheats. Thats just me though.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sami09
Not saying hes gonna do it again....but I would seriously consider what just happened before rushing into marriage....
well it looks liek you really love him, but the point is if you rush into marriage right now you don't wanna regret it later. It's very hard for people to change and it's possible that in his guilt he's changed temporarily...but u have to make sure the change is real...my ex used be very controlling and once when we almost broke up he said he'd change, and for a few months he even did but after i had forgiven him he snapped back into his controlling self...what i'm saying it...it's easy to make promises but hard to keep them, you have to make sure he means everything he's said before u guys get married....Quote:
Originally Posted by Sami09
Well it looks like our advice hasn't done much to convince you, Sami09. You want our opinions, but then all you can say back is how much you love him and how much he loves you back and wants things to work out between you two again. If he really honestly knew how bad he hurt you, he wouldn't be looking for the quick solution, which is eloping. You need time to heal and he needs time to gain your trust back again. This is not something you can just fix in a week. Running off to get married will certainly not help anything. I really think you should consider slowing things WAY down, taking a breath and give yourself some time to think things through rationally.
heys guys i am not sayin we are for sure going to elope its a possible. We have worked out are problems now and are on stable ground. He new he hurt me really badly and i know he will never do that again its like he is a change man in a way. He used to also say look at that hot girl in a sense of humor type of way but he said he doesnt care about any women but me now. He is really sitting up and its because he almost lost me. A lot of guys would never have told there women when they mess up but he did and he took responable. thanks everyone
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Originally Posted by aloha22
She knows her man loves her and won't do it again. By Tone
Thats right. Because, as you know the man who says he loves the girl he's with would never lie to her especially after he cheated on her. Now that his love has been trully confirmed and set in concrete (Because his love may not have been as fully confirmed before as it is now) he will definetely never cheat again. Especially if he swore and crossed his heart three times. He probably only cheated in the first place because he didn't know it was wrong. Because they didn't have a subject like that at school he went to and it's not like it's against the law to cheat is it? But NOW that he KNOWS that cheating is very very impolite he will never ever do it. Even for the rest of his life. Even if he has millions of opportunities to cheat with hot, blue eyed blonde haired, easy girls begging for Infidelity and knows he can easily get away with it and will not get into a lot of trouble if he doesn't get away with it, he simply will not do it because he now knows it's not very nice to do something like that to someone you love. Why does everyone find it so hard to understand that?
Respect...
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Originally Posted by Mishanya
Gee I guess I was under the impression they were in a long term relationship(over 2 years) and usually when that occurs.. cheating shouldn't. You shouldn't need to learn about it in school to know its wrong..... He may not ever do it again( I hope for her sake he doesn't) but there are no guarantees. I don't find it hard to understand. What I find hard to understand is that you would let a guy get away with that if he told you "I didnt know it was wrong to cheat". Peace....
Dear Ellynn
Please don't tell me you took everything i wrote above at face value lol
I am trying to show why Sami thinks it's a good idea to totally forgive this guy to the rest of us (Me included) who are silly enough to not understand her point of view :)
Didn't you all realise he's now a changed man? :)
Respect...
Wow and I thought you were for real.....lol.... Ok ...the sarcasm sometimes is hard to pick up sometimes on here. Thank god you weren't for real....Quote:
Originally Posted by Mishanya
Sigh....I just hope she does the right thing.....
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Originally Posted by Tone
We dated for 2 and a half yrs almost. Of course he knew it was wrong and he saden by what he did. We are movin forward in are relationship. I said before it wont happen again if you say the pain in his eyes you would understand the though of almost losing me did that. He doesnt even care to look at other women he just wants to be with me and i believe in him thanks all for the advice. some guys can make a mistake ones and it wont happen again.
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Originally Posted by Ellynn