Involved with married woman

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Originally Posted by hntwwg [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

1) I made a BIG mistake getting involved with a married woman. Shame on me.

2) No Contact was and is the only right course of action

3) I am doubting if I even respect this woman now. She says she loves me, wants a life with me, not her husband, but she chose to stay with him. So either she is a liar or doesn't care for me like she says she did. How can I respect this especially when she cheated? I told myself over and over that I could accept this if she left him for me, but she didn't.

4) With this lack of respect comes the lack of intense pain. Even though I am still hurting, I realize that I can get through this pretty fast now.

5) I am ready to go out and meet people. I will not of course jump into a realtionship but making new friends now will help set the stage for a relationship when I am ready.

Thanks again. My heart is with you all.

Good. You are starting to see what actually is. 'Once a cheater, always a cheater', is a truism for a reason.

You are right. She could have left him if she wanted to be with you. Everyone makes choices, including you. Don't choose to be a Boy Toy.

Yes, but do I really want to establish contact again? For whatever reason.

I think you need to reach the mindset where you could interact, if necessary, w/o attachment. Only you know if you are ready for that tho. And it is a trivial sum of money, really. So long as you are sure there won't be more coming you could just pay it & forget about it.