It's up to you, NickeyD. LF is a good place. Just because you feel you had a bad experience here the first time, doesn't mean you shouldn't come back if you want. There are some people here who are pretty experienced about relationships. And no, they aren't therapists, they won't sugar coat things for you, and they won't hesitate to tell you you're stupid if they think you're doing something stupid. But they will be honest. It's kind of like a jury in a sense.
Personally I'd rather not have things candy coated for me. I want people to be straight up, even if I don't agree with them or don't care for their delivery. If I'm doing something stupid, or thinking in a stupid way, I want to be called out on it. There could be a valuable message in there somewhere, and I don't want to be too thin-skinned to miss it.