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Preaching to the choir, man, but absolutely agree. I'm past the white knight syndrome now, and god yes, my life's biggest regret is sticking with one girl all through school. Part of confidence is...

Maybe that was bad wording. No worries at all on finding the right push/pull balance. I've now had four relationships that lasted more than two months, and with the first three there was never a...

Yeah, I think it worked out as best as it could given my lack of experience with girls of this type. I can look back and know that at least at the end I handled it well deleting her without any more...

You're dead on, Smackie. I was just thinking today that the best time to have manned up, said "good luck" and walked away was when she was "confused". When Alice told me she was living with him, she...

Huh? Where'd that come from?

Oh, I get where the red flags were. But I was asking where the breaking point was. The reason I didn't walk away was because she never gave a reason, just said she felt "different... and you coming...

That's what I keep trying to figure out... where should that breaking point have been if not there at the end? When Alice told me the first time? She was out of the country, her English was awful,...

So some of you may remember my story, details here:

http://www.loveforum.net/threads/63798-Lessons-I-Wish-Someone-Smacked-Into-Me-Six-Months-Ago

Last fall I had an intense LDR with this girl...

I was kidding... mostly... but I do think she's in a tough mental place now with no job, me gone, who knows what going on with her ex. Which can be dangerous as someone who cares for her. I agree...

[QUOTE=searock;795928]No, she is just trying to engage you in conversation in a funny/witty way.[/QUOTE

Fine. Funny/witty and nuts.

So after two weeks of no contact, she messages me yesterday saying "It's a beautiful day out, would you like to get coffee sometime? Maybe next week? x". I tell her I'm pretty busy. She insists,...

Fair enough. Though much of the reason why I took a job in another country was because of my family. ;)

Appreciate the thoughtful response and I concur with the vast majority of it. Not sure the distortion you speak of in the LDR is the real cause... we were seeing each other every other weekend from...

Not sure why this matters but I'm 33.

I'm not saying you're wrong, lady, but I'm literally an analyst and I can't help but analyze. I try to see patterns so I can learn from them and not make the same mistake twice. And if I can't figure...

That's very thoughtful, oldskool, but I attended a great grad school outside the US last year because I love international business, ended up getting a terrific internship last summer abroad (which...

Sigh. Nope. Just looking for someone who can disagree with the body of what I wrote via well-thought-out points backed up by experience. As I apparently won't find that here I'll move on.

It all goes back to how happy your wife is with you. No man can make a woman cheat who doesn't want to cheat on her man. If she *is* thinking about him, it's either because you're overpossessive, or...

This from the guy who just asked me to whip it out. :D

Come on, tell me specifically where I'm off. There's nothing radical or disrepectful to anyone in what I wrote, no clue why you're taking it...

Nah, you just sounded like a girl. ;) Love and commitment and talking through issues is all well and good but sometimes it's just talk. Without behavior that drives each other a little crazy you will...

Curious what gender you are, HIA. I've been analyzing and re-analyzing what we both did, my past relationships, and others I've seen out there -- friends and online randoms -- and I stand by what I...

So as one or two of you have read in my other post, three weeks ago I moved to another country to start a new life with a great new job and to be with a girl I'd been long-distance dating for the...

Yeah, I really did. You're so right. I'm a schmuck. After the last email she started messaging me and I fell for it, telling her of course I still care, but we both really need space, why don't we...

No, that's pretty much what I thought as well. She has a unique ability to twist my best intentions to be demeaning of herself, this was no different. She can take my last email as a sincere message...

I buy that 100%. She replied saying that I seem to have gotten over her surprisingly easily, and that subconsciously she must have made the right choice, she won't be contacting me anymore, goodbye....