Originally Posted by
ria85
Hi everyone need some advice. My fiance is bisexual and he says I am the only girl he has been able to tell and be open about it. When we were in the early months of the relationship he suggested we have a threesome with another guy at the time I said no and we just used it as a fantasy during sex. However as time went on I warmed to the idea maybe because my partner was getting the urge to sleep with another man. I guess I thought i would give the threesome a go and yes I admit I enjoyed it and have gone on to do it three times now. However with the third man my partner has fallen for the guy who we had the threesome with and now wants to see him on his own without me even going to house to meet up for sex. I thought I was ok with this and I was to start of with but they have been sending really naughty rude sms messages to one another saying how much they like each other and how they feel connected. My partner shows me these messages and then says it means nothing and that I am the one he loves and the one he wants to marry. I asked if I could see another man whilst he is with the other guy and I am alone just for sex and was told no that it is cheap and dirty and different because I am not bisexual and he would not be happy about that at all. I guess I wouldn't want to sleep with another man without my partner being there but surely it is double standards? I feel so uncomfortable now about my partner seeing this other guy and wonder if I will lose him. Am I too blame for this situation? have been to understanding about his sexuality? Should I allow him to sleep with other men now and forever to feed his bisexual side and make sure he is happy? I really dont know.
Ask him if you can see the same guy alone for sex. See what he has to say about that. Maybe the two of you can fall in love with this one man and have a polyamorous union where all three of you love each other in a romantic/sexual dynamic. Anything less then that I'd tell them both to go fk themselves and leave them to it
Your fiancé wants you to be his faithful beard. You may want to suggest a threesome with another woman... For all you know, you may like it enough to have your own private time with a same sex lover... ask him what he thinks about you having alone time with a chick and let us know what he has to say about that.
Last edited by Wakeup; 31-10-14 at 02:21 PM.
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