Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
This is definitely not a black and white situation. It is entirely possible he was 100% sincere in everything. Divorce can take a while to finalize. It could very well be 100% over in his mind, it just has yet to be so on paper.
Which makes him STILL MARRIED and only a fool would hook up with someone still living in the same house as the person they SAY they will leave but haven't yet done so.
Op: Yes, you were just a distraction. He likely does this often to foolish women who don't look after their own best interests by telling men like him to call you when you're actually DIVORCED and not still living with the mother of your children.
You'd be even more foolish if you actually believe that you should wait or even continue to think that someone like him will "hit choo up" once his children are grown and on their own... after all that's when he'll have to be able to bear not seeing them everyday because they'll have lives of their own.
Learn from this so that you don't make this mistake yet again and start something up with someone who is still married. 99.9% of the time, you will be the one left behind when you hook up with someone already in a relationship (whether it be a good relationship or not).
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion