I have a crush on my neighbour

[MayaS]

So, I live here for 10 years now and I definitely knew that our neighbors have a son, but I've never met him. Two years ago at the bus station my mum randomly started talking with some guy and then of course he said hi to me and we started talking. He was going to my high school (at that time he was at uni and I was going to high school, since he is 6 years older than me). He was really cute and kind, but I just wasn't interested. After that I haven't seen him even tho we live in the same street!

I don't know how and why but recently I became really interested in him. I said that to my mum, because she mentioned that she was seeing him pretty often. So since my mum really likes his family and thinks that he is a nice guy, next time when she saw him she asked him to help us with buying a laptop, so he came and helped us. He gave me his number to call him when I buy a laptop so he can come again and check out. But idk, he was nice, but my mum and younger brother were here, so he was probably just kind. When he was leaving we shook hands and that was it.

Next time when I saw him he kissed me on the cheek (it's the way we say hi in my country, so nothing special but still different from the first time). We talked about uni, since it's my first year at uni and other casual topics. I also saw him two weeks ago, and same situations, random topics, he mentioned his ex girlfriend one time and he also mentioned that a couple of years ago he was going somewhere with his girlfriend, but didn't say if it's an ex gf, so I couldn't really realize if he's single.

I haven't seen him for two weeks, and I just don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about him and don't know how to see him more often, 'cause always leave the houses at the different time. I don't know if he is interested or not. I did see that he was looking at me and he made some serious eye contact while we were talking, but it still doesn't have to mean anything, 'cause he has my number and knows where I live but didn't do anything about it. He also asked about my age, but he thought that I am older.

So, yeah... What should I do? Please help me, otherwise I'll go crazy.
Sorry for such a long text and for my bad English.

[tayhei]

He sounds very lovely!

So the two biggest concerns would be the slight age gap and if he has a girlfriend. Does he have a facebook? Maybe you can find out from there, from your mother, or she can ask him in a nonchalant way sometime.

As for the age gap, he may not see you in the way you want him to. Try to see if you can be friends first by texting him sometime or making a time to hang out. Or you could delve right into it and ask him out for coffee.

[MayaS]

He has a facebook and I sent him a friend request but since he wasn't accepting it for a long time I deleted it. I think that he doesn't use it very often, because from what I could see on his locked profile he changed his profile picture five months ago.

And about age gap, I was thinking that too, but he was talking about his friend having a girlfriend my age.
Last time when I saw him he said that he has family holiday (it's a thing in my country, every family celebrate different holiday), but I didn't realize it was that day and didn't congratulate him, so I felt sorry and little embarrassed and texted him to say sorry and congratz, and he laughed and replied very nice. But that's it!

[tayhei]

That's too bad with fb. Try getting your mother in on it to see if he's single before you pursue him.

It looks like you guys get along good. You could say you want to thank him for the help with the computer and invite him out to something noncommittal first. Say you want to treat him to a movie, some outing, or the like.

[MayaS]

The problem is that my mum doesn't see him that often anymore and it's been to long since he has helped me about a computer so it would be weird that I decided now to thank him, wouldn't it?

[tayhei]

I guess your mom can eventually ask him, unless he disappeared off the face of the Earth, or moved. You'll find out sooner or later.

Since it's been a while, you can say something like "I never thanked you for that one time you helped me out with my computer! Do you like movies? I should treat you sometime because it was a big help". Do you want to see the new Hobbit movie coming out?

Sometimes you have to take risks if you want to try to get to know someone. Don't be afraid of rejection, be afraid of not trying. You win some and you lose some, it's all apart of life.

[Wakeup]

He said he was going somewhere with his girlfriend.

That means he has a girlfriend... it doesn't mean he was hanging out with an ex girlfriend. He's older then you and he has a girlfriend so you are no where on his radar. Do yourself a favor and stop your thoughts of him so that you can train yourself to get to the stage of indifference to him.

Direct your crush elsewhere and stop dwelling on this young man that is not available to you.
You'll meet plenty of boys in first year Uni so go there single and ready to mingle. Never pursue or continue to daydream about guys that have a girlfriend... you will end up hurt and you will waste valuable dating time by not being open to meeting guys that are available to be had.