Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1 year 4 months now. I am 19 and he is 24. After 3 months of dating, we started having a lot of sex. He would beg me for sex a lot, and I would turn him down often but usually ended up giving it to him. If I wanted sex I would just say the word and he would do me.

About 7 months into dating, we moved in together so we could see each other everyday instead of every weekend. We would have sex at least once a day. Everything was going good until about 3 months ago when he totally stopped having sex with me. When I ask him why he doesn't want to have sex with me he says he doesn't know why. He started going to the gym to help increase his energy, but his libido doesn't seem to have gotten any better.

This is a big problem because sex is very important to me in this relationship. I want a man to need me physically and also satisfy my sexual needs too. If he isn't willing to be there for me sexually, then I wonder why we even say we are dating. I sometimes wish we could just be friends, because I want a boyfriend to touch me and be there for me romantically and sexually.

The lack of sex has also made me very irritable for the past month. We have been getting into a lot of arguments that I don't feel great about. At least in the past if we had arguments we could have make-up sex and admit that we still love each other. It feels even worse that he admitted to me that he has been watching porn and mastrubating instead of having sex with me. I asked him how he could do that and he told me that having sex with me is tiring and mastrubating is so much easier (i.e. he doesn't break a sweat) That makes me feel like I'm not worth it or something.

I thought I had gained weight or maybe he thinks I'm not sexy anymore, but he tells me that isn't true and that he still loves me. Whenever we lay in bed together or spoon I can feel that he still gets hard for me.

I don't know, I have been so upset lately because I've been questioning our relationship and why he cant be crazy about me like he used to be. I mean, we are still friends and do things together, but nothing romantic. He likes it when I play videogames with him but he doesn't take me out to eat or buy me gifts or anything like that anymore. I am afraid that the more he has learned about me, the more he doesn't like me. But we always say that we love each other but the lack of sex has really driven me to the breaking point.

It feels like he doesn't want me anymore, and like I said, sex is important to me and my relationships so I don't know what to do!

I know I cant force him to have sex with me, but i feel like there is a blockade in his mind that is not allowing him to have do me. Because of this distrust, I feel like there is something wrong in our relationship and its extremely hard to cope.

PS. I do try to mastrubate to hold me over to the next time that we have sex, BUT I WANT HIM!!!

PSS. Neither of us are overweight.