Hi everyone,
hope you all had a great chrissy and are enjoying this festive season, may you be found in peace and content.
I have a question or rather clarification to ask regarding a situation of mine.
Been with a man for 2.5 yrs, ups and downs etc... now we have been off for 3 mths and I can see he is not as warm towards me as I know him to be...
we speak on the fone every now and then but he always tells me the same thing.. I never ask anything of him or push for a relationship or beg him to get back.. just keep saying.. it is what it is , when he starts talking ... becasue i also want to see what I need etc..
however he will say to me like today... I love you but I dont want to hurt you.. if I keep saying that and you keep saying to me that you love me and its like this .. i dont want to hurt you.... he said previously .. he doesn love me but i need to find out what i want.. that i became dfrnt person to what he met me like.. that I was more relaxe and free spirit when we met then i started demanding thigns etc.. anyway I feel dfrtnly but i dont want to argue with him now.. and i just say to him.. there is no need to talk bout that... he said he thinks he needs to find himself and i said well thats ok.. toy do whats right for you.. and I also need to do whats right for me.
i am confused.. I dont know why he tells me he loves me yet he doesnt know what he wants... he keeps bringin in the past and then tells me he doesnt want to hurt me.
is he just being polite .. becasue he is very distant.... i called him today after 6 days of no contact and htats what he tells me.. when I am on the fone.. he wants to keep talking to me... but always just to get the feel how i am or what i been up to.. what i am doing for NYE etc... and just to tell me how he loves me but dont want to hurt my feelings.
whats your advice? after the conversation I just feel sad again and i feel why cant he see his mistakes like i have and then be more positive if he really loves me... instead it feels he kind of acts like.. its a shame.. he loves but dont want to hurt my feelings so thats why he dont call or text.
am i blind? is he saying he is over it?
I will appreciate honesty no matter what , thank you