Girl Got Scared Of Her Feelings, Needs Time, But Then Comes Back Around Same Day

[rexxy]

I started dating this girl about 2 weeks ago (met her once, a month before at a club) and I feel this like this relationship is in fast forward mode.

On the first date I ended up back at hers and slept with her.

The second date she came to my house (I live at home) to spend the night with my family and next door neighbors, like a mini party. (Parents and neighbors really liked her). She stayed the night at mine and we had sex twice. The next day we spent it together going to the beach, etc and just hanging out.

So after all this happened she invited me to a BBQ at her place, had heaps of fun and stayed the night then she asked is she could come stay at mine the next day. We both decided that night we would be exclusive with each other (No sex that night because of situation)

The next day she came to mine and once again we had heaps of fun, and had sex that night (completely sober). She said I needed to text her in the future and she kept bringing up things about us.

The next day everything was normal as usual, cuddling up to each other, holding hands, touching each other, enjoying ourselves. Then it got a bit heated so we started kissing each other in bed and was about to have sex (her top was off etc) and as soon as i started feeling down her legs she said "im too nervous, not really comfortable" I said "ok, thats fine im not going to pressure you into anything".

We had a conversation during that and she said that everything is happening to quick since she got out of a relationship 4 months ago and she needs to focus on her self, that we had sex too soon, and having too many deep conversations with each other. Then she said she doesn't wan't to end been exclusive but thinks she should. Basically she ended been exclusive after one night but she really wasn't clear on what she wanted at all.

Straight after that conversation she packed her stuff and left, both confused and awkward.

She texted me about half an hour later with "Im sorry, I literally feel sick after saying that, It's just im getting feelings for you and i just think im getting them too quickly,,,I don't know what to do..honestly"

I told her "I'm getting feelings for you too and i've never experienced it this fast but that could be a good thing. If you want we can slow things down and see how you feel. But if your feeling something else, just tell me and we can go our seperate ways. I''l respect your decision either way"

She said "Yeah of course its a good thing. It's just so sudden it was scary, but im glad you feel the same way. No there is no other reason honestly. It's just hard to say that in person because I didn't know how you were feeling. I didn't want to scare you."

Then She said "she doesn't want to take the relationship back a step, but doesn't want to rush into a relationship because she doesn't like flings. That once she is in a relationship it has to be serious. She's not one to waste her time. She wants to take her time. So hopefully your same?"

I said "I'm exactly the same:

She said "I'm glad x"

A bit later after all this she invited me to fly up to where her family lives and meet all of them in 2 weeks time.

It's like after discussing all of this she suddenly came around and started to trust me, also showing a lot more interest through text and photos, what do you make of it?

[TablesandChairs]

Obvious, isn't it?

She freaked out because things were moving quickly and she didn't know whether you were as serious about her as she is about you. Girls can feel a bit...reluctant after jumping into sex too soon because it can send the wrong message (for example - that they're 'easy'). You reassured her and this seemed to put her mind at ease.

[rexxy]

It really wasn't that obvious to me because I thought she would be able to tell that I was serious since we were spending all that time together, etc. When she walked off like that I honestly thought I was just a rebound, because it was extremely confusing.

I think that her asking to meet her family was a bit of a test to see if I really was as serious as she was, which put her mind at ease in the end.

Thanks for clarifying the situation, sometimes you just need someone to analyze it all and clear it up.

Thanks.

[milk&honey]

She's definitely interested in you and you just have to keep reassuring her that you're not just playing around with her. Congrats in your new relationship