His life is overwhelmed and he is shutting you out? This guy has horrible communication skills and frankly, wouldn't make a good life partner. Tell him that he can have his space and if he wants someone to hang out with you, you will be there for him. Then, get busy with other things in your life.
A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything
She uses logic and manages her emotions
She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them
She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions