GF has lower sex drive and yells at me too much!!>?? What do I do?

[EndlessDecision]

So I have been living with my girlfriend for about two years. Without her I would be living in my car or at random friends' houses. She has been there for me when my family wouldn't nor my friends. I can see myself with her for years to come but there is just one problem......she gets really angry and stubborn about who is right, and who is wrong in any situation.

This leads to her raising her voice, which then blocks out my words of recognition(to what she was saying/yelling). This happens not only with me but with the two other people that she is close with in life, her older sister and her dad.

I feel like when she is being her normal self and not overexercised by her emotional impulse to argue, that she is a pure diamond in the rough! (to say the least)
So it is very tiring having to deal with her emotions when mine scarcely get addressed.

The other big issue is that our SEX drives are very far apart....I would like it almost anytime possible where she would like it 2-3 times a week. This is because she has had a spree of ****ing in high-school that wasn't a positive experience for her (so she says).

Me on the other hand have only slept with a few people in high-school. She has ****ed 3.5 times more than I have in life so far. I have slept with 3 females she has slept with 11 guys, before we started going out.

I have had the craving to have sex more whether it be oral, touching, or full on sex but she never gets into it when I initiate it anymore. (she used to in the beginning). I have also wanted to explore the various body types sexually, so instead of holding in the thoughts, I ended up expressing how I was thinking/feeling to her.

I told her that I would wanted to explore more sexually and that I was coming to her to give her control of the situation and for permission to do so(as long as she was my number one priority and nothing came before her) but she said no....I explained that I view it like anyone would view a back massage. It needs to be done by someone else, it relieves stress and you don't have emotional attachment to the person that massaged you or that you massaged.

It tears me up because I would be so much more in love with her if she was more understanding of how I feel about the situation. What do I do?

PS I explained to her that, for me, what matters most in LIFE and closer to Death is having positive attachments with life long friends and family. And the only ones I would want to experience sexual things with would be ones that aren't ratchet and truly a good understanding friend.

[basilandthyme]

So without her you'd be living in your car or couch surfing? Let me guess - her temper tantrums are related to you being a lazy ass. Well you have two choices: either suck it up or get a job and move out.

Beggars can't be choosers.

[EndlessDecision]

I work full time and go to school full time. I am far from lazy, I just have no family support. I don't make enough to support myself and actually work for her dads corporation.

[woody]

could just be the way she is man. Only personal growth will either give her a self epiphany or at least the will to be calmer, to somehow find a way through the short fuse.

Sex life? Stumped there. You could try libido boosters. Also, there are certain times of the month women become a little more open to sex. Around ovulation time. So figure out when her's is and get it while you can.
Though, if she is stressed about something, that's going to affect everything else so you may need to do some digging there.
good luck

[basilandthyme]

I can't imagine wanting sex with someone who I got really mad with on a regular basis. Given that she yells at you often enough that it bothers you, I'd guess that the sex issues are relationship related. She may also be tired and struggling with the fact that she's supporting you. Supporting two people on one income is not an easy task.

As you now have a job, break up with her and find some mates to share a flat with. Then you can escape her temper and go have sex with whoever you want.

[woody]

O.P
Yeah, I gots to say, if this lady is constantly a screeching match, gee man, how's that working for you?
I mean, do you really love this woman? I mean, truly so far as it extends to unconditionally?

Seems you've ah, got some soul searching to do there man.

But hey, if all's swell aside from the sex appetite, I'll say this. 3 times a week ain't bad. Mind you, that would depend on if each time was a marathon or a 'way too quick, quicky'..
Marathons are much better. Tuckers both of you out so much so that 3 times a week is plenty. So, how's the endurance?

[basilandthyme]

I think it's hilarious that she's the only thing stopping him from being homeless, yet he wants her permission to go sleep with other women.

I think he be trollin'

[woody]

Basil, I don't think he wanted permission to sleep with 'other' women; he wanted permission to explore her more.
And while he may have been somewhat dependent on her at the start, he's a working man now. I would imagine they just need to find their stride in the ol sack, like so many of us do.
Sorry, just needed to clarify that. I looked at his posts to see if he said that; he did not.
and while I agree with you if he was a broke broke no prospect kind of guy clenching off her apron strings, that'd be enough to stress any one out in to no libido, I don't think that's the case here.

hope your well

[dontaskme]

[MENTION=72336]woody[/MENTION], he is asking the GF permission to have sex with other women. This is a typical "he wants his cake and eat it too".

OP, do your GF a favor and leave her now. You are a user (no matter how much you want to deny it). You use her father for a job and you continue to use your GF for housing and financial support, then once done with school, you'll end up leaving her to find someone else to scratch your "itch".

[woody]

please show me in those exact words where he said he wanted permission to step out because I just re read his o.p and for me, he's only asking to explore 'her' more.