Hello everyone, this is my first post and I am really seeking some needed advice. My husband and I have been married for about eight months and have had a lot of trouble with conflict. To give some background without boring you, I am eight years older than him and we got married after dating just a short time. We both just felt it was right. However, with a few months, a pattern established itself. He is a wonderful, loving husband most of the time. Then I do, or don't do something he wants, and he turns almost mean. As in he says he hates me, doesn't want to support me, doesn't want to be seen with me, that I'm dumb and stupid, etc. it is such a change from the man who just a day earlier said he was so happy to have married me and that I was the perfect wife for him.
The latest incident has me baffled. We recently moved to a new city in order find jobs as we both lost them. I found a job quickly and have been working for several months. He has struggled on the other hand so I am solely supporting us right now. Yesterday he asked me to lie to my work and pretend to be sick so I could go look for jobs with him. (I have already missed a week this month due to the flu) He threatened that this would prove how much I loved him. If I went, I didn't love him. Well, I told him that I was not going to lie and that I wanted to go to work, not because I didn't love him, but because it is what I felt was right. He grew very angry and stated that he wasn't going to support me ever again, that I didn't love him, and that he was not going to use any of his money for me, just him. And that I had to take care of myself.
Logic tells me that he is just angry and that he will get over this in a few days like he usually does. He has been far more angry and has threatened to leave me during earlier incidents. After a few days, he then comes back and says how wonderful I am and that he has never loved anyone as much as me.
Well, there is most of the story. Sorry it's long, but what do I do?