Hello,
I met this girl last year when I was a junior. When I say "met" I mean that I just knew she existed. For all of my junior year I saw her in one class everyday, but I did not give her more than a second or two of thought each day. This year was completely different. I had three classes with her in which I regularly talked with her. Sometimes it was just small talk, other times it was full-fledged conversation. Then I got switched out of two of the classes second semester yet we kept on talking in the hallways, in one remaing class off and on, and via text. We became decent friends. Still I wasn't attracted to her. Then I asked her to prom. Still when I asked her, I didn't think of her as someone more than a friend. But we still continued to talk on a regular basis. And eventually over the course of two months I started to think of her as more than a friend. Yet it wasn't physical attraction. I didn't think she was stunning, or hot, or even that pretty. Yet I started to become attracted to what was on the inside. Her heart, her personality, her laugh, her intelligence, etc. Then after a few weeks I began to become physically attracted to her. But its not that she isn't physically attractive. Its just finding her beautiful on the inside made me realize that she is beautiful on the outside. Anyways, I told her about my feelings. She told me she liked me but not in a romantic way. Which I was cool with. We went to prom and we had fun, it was a little awkward at times but it was fine. I felt like I was a little too romantic at times and so I apologized to her. But she was cool with it. And know I am beginning to think that I am in love with her. I constantly dream about her. Not having sex with her but just having her be with me in my dreams. I also can't get her off my mind during the day. I am starting to believe that I must better myself physically, mentally, and spiritually for her sake not mine. Do you think I am in love with her? I am wondering what to do. Should I keep on being friends hoping that one day she will fall in love with me or should I just let our friendship fade to avoid a disastrous end and/or doing something that I will regret? Thanks for your time and suggestions.
Ian Witucki