I was dating this girl for 2 months who wasn't over her ex, she kept mentioning him and has a history of bipolar she's the type that has drama in her life. Even though we didn't have much in common, and we were very different people, it started out great and we had so much fun and there was a lot of mutual attraction. In the final 2 weeks we dated, she changed her behaviour and became cold and moody with her friends and even me. She left me after I told her that her moody behaviour was really getting to me. She replied feeling hurt and said she isn't ready for something serious. I tried my best to apologise and said I should have been more supportive. We carried on dating but she started treating me like I wasn't a priority.
Now there were things that led up to this and it seemed to be like a crash and burn type relationship. When I spoke to her friend, she said she felt it wasn't going anywhere and that I didn't get to know her interests but she didn't bother asking anything about my life, it was all about hers.
At the time I didn't want a relationship but I realised I wanted one after she left. She said she didn't feel special because of this so I tried really getting to know her after the initial breakup and said I was guarded after my last failed relationship. We had a cinema date and had a deep, meaningful conversation. I tried kissing her but she rejected me, saying that 'you haven't seen me at my worst'. Before this, there was a night out where something happened. She french kissed her girl-friend when drunk which I really didn't like and I stupidly play-grinded up against a female friend (who is taken and I have no interest in) so that caused an issue.
Another night after we decided to carry on dating, she was distant and ignored me practically all night in favour of her friends. I talked to her about it and in the moment of frustration told her I was in love with her. Later that night, she broke up with me again, so I left the club to see my friends. She led me on for the next 2 months telling me she wanted to be friends and see where things go and that she needs time but her actions showed she became less interested over time and sent mixed signals. She even encouraged me to sleep/date others and said 'forget about me, you're such a nice guy and I don't want to hurt you'.
I always gave her plenty of space and didn't message her too much, if anything she said I didn't do it enough, but she expected me to put in the work after she rejected me.
On another night out, she came to a club I was at because she knew I was out and she said that we 'get on', she kissed me and the rest of the night was really confusing. She french kissed another girl and was hardly giving me any attention but somehow, at the end of the night, we ended up sleeping together and talked about being friends with benefits. She said we'd get round to doing something but said she had a busy week. I got tired of this being treated like an option and I texted her and said I can't be her friend anymore.
Her friends told me different things, that I 'should go for nicer girls', that she treated me badly and that I should give her time but I don't see how becoming friends is a smart move after dating. She stopped inviting me places, stopped kissing me and only slept with me when we were both out drinking. After weeks of doing things on her terms only and trying to date her my confidence was shattered, I began testing her interest and eventually ended our friendship altogether because I felt neglected. She said I play games and don't use my head and that time was irrelevant to getting together. She said I reminded her of how damaged she is and that she felt pressured into something serious, even though all I wanted was to see her more but she wanted to be friends.
I'll admit I made mistakes but I genuinely tried to make things work.